i just joined Al-Anon
i can’t stop crying all the time
feel like i lost my mum and sister at the same time
sister alcoholic living with mum and being a raging drunk for 8 years or so
i have moved away about 3 years ago
i’m making a decision not to see them much any more because of how destructive she is
i can’t do this
who’s living with this sitty illness in the family one more time?
sorry i mentioned this before
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It’s good you’re in al anon. Does your mom drink also
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Sorry to hear that. Ive heard good things from my sponsor about al-anon (in the uk at least).
Cant be easy. I know i was a nightmare to live with cos i was permanantly drunk. 
Just remember - ITS NEVER YOUR FAULT mate. Only they can take responsibilty for their drinking x
(sorry assuming your not the alcoholic? your family is?)
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thank you 
yes, it’s my sister
she started drinking when her 2 elder sisters became schizophrenic at the same time
she was 12 and on her own
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no just my sister
i’m in
Overeaters and Debtors Anonymous too
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yea i’ve recently had enough myself
it’s not actually ever positive for me
AA i go to occasionally these days but it’s really never been much of a problem
but ‘AA certainly prevented it for me
stopped soon after teen years for a long time after becoming schizophrenic
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My dad died 4 years ago… his cause of death was a heart attack but that would not have happened without alcohol. He had been an alcoholic all of my life. I had such a hard time figuring out do I love him or hate him. Now I know I loved him. But I am so angry at him, for dying… such a stupid death. If he would have stopped drinking even for a few days, he would be alive. I have so many confused thoughts about him still. And I’m sad. So, so sad. I have so many feelings I have not been able to deal with.
“I feel like I’m not nice because sometimes it’s hard for me to think something about you. Except for it dad, I love you, and will always, always miss you”
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@nimeton im so sorry
i relate because my middle sister who was psychotic for 12 years was hit by a car in 2001 age 25
i hoped for her recovery endlessly and occasionally wished her gone
i feel the same now about my 43 year old sister
she is so destructive and at the same time i love her so much
@nimeton i’m sorry if that was insensitive
it’s different when it’s a parent
the anger is bigger i think
i haven’t lost my father yet but he’s a bit nightmarish as a person
The worst part of having an alcoholic relative, is to figure out do you love them or hate them… I realized I loved my father but hated what he did. But I’m so happy that when he died, we were in good terms. He died abroad on a holiday, thousands of km’s away from home. Getting his body back home was difficult.
Worrying about an alcoholic relative is hard. I hope strength to everyone, who is in this situation. I thought about cutting my dad out of my life for many times, but I couldn’t do it as I still loved him so much.
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Yeah. I used to belong to Problem Eaters Anonymous years ago. It’s a lifelong struggle. At least I don’t binge/purge anymore and I’m not anorexic anymore
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I’m still angry at my mom for dying. It’s normal I guess.
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