Abstaining from carnal desires and impulses will grant you so much freedom. A clear head, a calm feeling, and you will gain a more focused mindset, to accomplish other things. I tried to abstain before, but I failed. Not this time.
Plus the porn industry is satanic with their brainwashing. If any of you have children or younger siblings, be sure to install a adult website filter on their mobile/laptop devices.
And if some sites are blocked which are Ok, you should be able to add them to an ‘accepted filter’.
If anyone wants advice on how to block certain websites, best bet is to get your kids apple devices. They come with something called Screen Time, which can limit anything they would want to access. All other parental control apps I have tried require a paid subscription, and severely slow down the internet for the whole house.
Im not really abstinent on purpose. Just no sex drive so i havent had any form of sexual energy in a long time. Masturbation seems so boring to me now. Not to mention i get intrusive images and thoughts while doing it. Eh.
Yeah I never understood porn. Good point about the filters/but even adults need to be careful online. Like I have to be so careful who I talk to, there are so many sketch-cat people online who pretend they are cool. I was advised not to talk to anyone on facebook that I dont know. Actually, it was part of what triggered my episode talking to some weird dude online. People gaslight/people say things that f with people’s heads.
That’s why I think being alone is ok right now. I’m one month clean/in recovery and sure I will post on a couple forums and groups, and close friends. But I never seem to meet people online I can trust/and dont bother to anymore. Being lonely is better than being triggered/or being led on by some strange person online. He said something so upsetting. Too many weirdo people on FB, can’t figure out to make my profile private.
May delete facebook at some point. Everything’s going online but I’m trying to get off tech/ and social media. Like I want to spend more time outside and in nature, and yet i can’t because all the therapy I do is over zoom. It’s getting impossible to leave the house.
I’ve had issues growing up with guilt over sexuality. So I make a point of being sexual just to prove to myself that it isn’t wrong. I feel you can find materials that are sex positive instead of degrading.
Hey man, you’re only young once. Sex is not evil or harmful and you’re going to get to my age (60) fast and you’re not going to have a strong sex drive. Practicing abstinence when you’re in 40’s or 50’s is just wasting the precious last
years before you get old and abstinence is not a choice, it’s just a fact of life.
But yeah, to each his own, but if you’re practicing abstinence in your twenties or thirties it just seems like such pointless waste of youthful energy and stamina.
I’ve indulged in porn, and I have completely ditched it for a few months at a time. Once or twice a week seems normal, more than that… Not sure what to think, for me anyway. At some point I could see it becoming problematic
I have no problem with porn. The human sexual reproductive system responds only to human forms. You can say you’re attracted to someone’s mind but that’s not sexual. So for pure sexual enjoyment and release I think watching porn is perfect. If you disagree you can try to masturbate while reading war and peace or other heady work of literature.
Well they can say that is their sexual orientation, but I think being attracted to someone’s mind, or needing a close emotional connection is just a preference they have.
Edit: So I would say someone like that is a heterosexual demi or a gay demi but not a pure demisexual who wants sex with their mom dad brother and sister and grandpa and grandma because they have a close emotional connection
Demisexuals have romantic partners. They don’t have romantic partnerships with their family. That’s called incest. And is wrong. They could have emotional relationships with their families, but I would hope that it’s non sexual…
