About love

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How do I know if I truly love a person?

I know, strange question.

But I am honestly very confused. I cannot be without this person; but sometimes I feel like it’s not love at all. It’s like being truly confused about my feelings. Maybe I loved the idea of the person, not the person by itself?

Anyways, how to be sure? I know I am hopeless romantic. I know I will always believe in love. But how do I know if I feel love at the moment? Advice?

**ADD
this question in my head started appearing not very long time ago. I always thought I do love this person, but the more I think about it, the more scared I feel about my feelings. What if it’s not love? Poor man if it’s not love, it would mean I just played a very bad game

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I heard a Buddhist monk say tru love is when you want what’s best for the other person no matter what. Kinda like how you feel about family. Romantic love is about how the person makes you feel.looking back the girls I really loved I liked them for exactly who they were… If who they are makes you feel good and you value that person and have a strong attraction to them maybe that is the start of love?

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Yeah probably that’s right. Maybe it’s the combination of many things: as you mentioned, attraction, feeling good, wishing the best, accepting… @AKendrick

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I still love my ex, it’s a lot like what Kendrick described. You want what’s best for them.
Anything else is either infatuation or games

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So that everything is okay in love, it’s better not to think about it.Pelevin

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When you meet someone and realize you’ve found the half of your soul that has been missing your entire life because now you are complete.

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When I had first open honest chat with my BF I felt that this is a man of my life… my future husband.

I hate the fact that I make him feel hurt.:frowning:

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I think it’s personal journey. But I think we I mean people must work with their thoughts to produce positive outcomes. Sorry for your relationship not working the way you wanted. But life gives us experiences to learn and evolve. Be greatful for what you have . Live balanced healthy life . And you will be great. Stay strong

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Pelevin’s thought about love, contradiction -I’m thinking about it.So I’m not doing well.

" In order for everything to be good in love, it is better not to think about it."In principle, it is probably true.1 When we think, we pour out the energy that excites us somewhere, but everything goes past love.Or we are already living through the experiences of its shades and memories or predispositions. And animals don’t think about love at all, but they know everything about it.And we are animals by a large percentage.So we can also know everything about her without thinking.But on the other hand, there is a super Ego-this is just not enough for mentally ill people. The adequacy of pouring out your passions and feelings.That is, a person with a super ego will think when he can adequately, without disturbing the balance of himself or others, pour out his naturally emotionally sensual passion.If she’s strong.

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You truly love someone when they fart in bed at night and you dont mind the smell :stuck_out_tongue:

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Well first of all if it’s not love that’s okay. People grow apart sometimes.

Second I have to quote my favorite band and say “You could absolutely break my heart, that’s how I know that we’re in love”

I think if your heart truly breaks for anyone you must love them in some capacity.

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I love my man friend because I feel comfortable with him. Sufficiently. And because I feel good enough just as I am and so is he, in my eyes.

I want the best for him.

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I don’t know what to say about love. You have to love yourself first. Then I think it probably happened naturally

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Do you want them? Or do you need them?

I think a crush is when you want someone
But love is when you need someone

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I had crushes and one ex but never really felt real love, i think its negative symptoms

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Love is union. How unified do you feel. If very much maybe it is indeed love. A good question is would you die for them? If yes I’d say it’s certainly love.

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Love in a relationship like that is overrated.

I know that’s not popular opinion, but it is fact.

I love my husband, but that makes up about 1/3 of our function as a couple.

The rest of it is work, straight up getting along and respect.

If I were single again, I’d look for that.

You can love anyone.

Someone that you can stand to be around is sooooo much more important.

Try a road trip.

That’ll let you know how much you “love” someone.

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How do I know when it’s love?
I can’t tell you but it lasts forever.

:wink:

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Love is neither boastful nor jealous.

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:heart: Love = evol :dna: +ve

For me its seeing unborn kids with the person.

It’s after all in one’s mind how I have defined it.

If I have the right definition it will go a long way.

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