an American dream maybe. Europe wants prosperity for all, good health, good politics. but Americans all they want is to get wealthy. that’s what I feel.
Maybe it is. I rather be independent and successful than rely on a nanny state my whole life.
It’s not just a dream. I see it all the time.
I do think we are more selfish in a way. I want all Americans to do well, but I also want to do well myself.
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I think it’s the human way to want to do well
I don’t see how only people in certain countries, want to do well and not the rest
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wealth is not a good thing in itself. it can be good if used well. and it’s not the goal of life. there are more precious things in life.
Life is about a balance and that includes money
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wealth is not balance. it’s too much of something.
Well, we have a lot of homeless people where I live. It’s sad. We don’t have enough homeless shelters. But a lot of them are either mentally ill, doing drugs, or drinking alcohol. They ask for money a lot. If you’re a vet, contrary to what the media says, you get a lot of help. If I was homeless, because of my condition, I would get more money and have access to more services like housing.
Money does buy happiness to a certain extent. I don’t believe in major redistribution of wealth like socialism or communism.
What’s the point of an education if you can’t put food in your mouth or have enough money to buy toilet paper? I’m serious.
To me, education is #1 but I also realize I need money to survive. I don’t want to be a career student.
If you got alot of love, you can have alot of money
Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Never forget that. Anything worthwhile takes a lot of time, patience, perseverence, courage and often team work. Do your best everyday, go to therapy sessions, take your meds, ask for help whenever needed, make friends. All these will increase your chances for success.
Also, in 2011 I was living in Paris and there was a sports event, or gala, where Usain Bolt came to compete in the 100m and 200m dash. People were in a frenzy taking pictures of him and whatnot. In the meantime I was admiring the architecture of the stadium and the people who must have put in a lot of work to design and build it. I then had a revelation (@anon93437440 might get jealous of me after reading this).
Most people are ants. Tiny and expendable, but winning and progressing through sheer numbers. Does any one know who invented the shirt buttons, for example? Or who built the Great Pyramids? No, but they did a great job. At the same time, a small minority of people are fleas. They jump around and do stunts and many jaws will drop in awe. Think about supermodels, some actors, singers or elite sportsmen. But fleas don’t build anything. They only create a buzz and twist our perception of the world.
It is the ants that build everything. Being a “mere” ant is in no way shameful. On the contrary, it means being a part of something much bigger than yourself, contributing a brick on the ever rising skyscraper of human civilization.
My ambition goes no further than to be a hard working ant, and just do my part. No illness could possibly stop me.
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Prioritize your goals. First learn to live with yourself and your condition and stabilize your mood. Then learn to have a healthy body and social life and not rely on your parents. When you work, it will sometimes be hard to find time to care for yourself, no energy to meet significant other, cook for yourself, etc. Your job can turn into something that requires you to rely somewhat more on parents. Go slowly and learn to be happy with yourself.
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You’re not a failure dude you’re just strong enough inside to be able to handle processing the world’s problems… it inherently scales you down… I think you just gotta find the balance of placement.
Even the little things come together to make a good world… like what’s a good world worth if it isn’t filled with good people.
I’d almost say that the nicest people should be paid to just walk around and be genuinely nice to others in that non obligatory way… because it is a serious need within the human social environment.
So just keep being a good guy and you ARE actually doing enough! Beyond that there is volunteer work that can get you a stronger sense of exposure and confidence and puts you in a place to really contribute to work that needs to be done for others!
Just throwing that out there for you buddy.
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Wow, you’re very tough on yourself dude. Thought of going back to school or working part time. I would strongly further engaging in life. Speaking from experience I spent way too many years not doing much. Really regret that. Dining purpose and meaning in life is one of the most fruitful recovery pathways! Good luck!
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It’s not going to happen overnight. Cut yourself some slack.
Don’t be a Sysiphus. You have great insight into your present condition so that’s an automatic win right there. I remember your goals of pursuing mathematics and chess but why don’t you start with something small like doing the laundry or other house work? A bit by bit approach until you get bored and want to do something bigger
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I hate to break it to a young person with this disease but seiously start with small goals and work from there. Like other person said rome wasnt built in a day. Also do not chase money your whole life you will wish you had spent your time better when you get older and realize as long as your basic needs are being met there are more important things in life. I am sure you have heard people say this before but i will say it anyway you cant take it with you
just play that over and over again
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It’s so tough when on antipsychotics ever since being on them my motivation lowered I always was so ambitious but now I’m like erm if I do admin that in itself would be an amazing achievement and also just making friends too
That’s really sad
I am planning on doing the same thing, @anon20318121. I am a medical mess even without the APs, but I am aiming to get back into work, get my MBA, get an even better job, then retire in comfort. I say aim high- unless it’s a delusion. 
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I understand how you feel. I don’t know your age- you are probably younger than me. I am 34, and I want to be a CFO or head of HR, something along those lines. Don’t give up your dreams. Things can get better. Take it in small steps to get yourself used to doing things, and slowly work your way up as you acclimate. If you get to a point where it is overwhelming, just take a step back until it becomes manageable again. I know it’s a lot easier to write down than it is to do, but you will never know how far you can go if you don’t start trying.
Good luck!
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