And went home empty handed. I spoke to two girls for the whole night and it just didnt go anywhere. First one was older than me but we had a decent conversation going. Second just fizzled out really.
I also went with my friends from school, one of them got a girls number while thebother kind of wingmanned for everybody, and he was pretty good!
We made friends with these girls but I was just shy and silent around them. I dunno why but I just can’t talk as much when Im with girls and they’re a bit drunk. I get social anxiety when I can’t make conversation. I just felt lost.
It was a learning curve thing I guess. I’ll go to the next one and see if I can get some numbers.
Actually, I tell a lie. Something kind of good did happen. One of the girls from the other group told me and my friends about their friend and took my number down to pass it on to her. So thats something I guess
Don’t give up on the dating scene! Everything in life takes practice and the more you put yourself in a position of talking to women the more you’ll be comfortable with it. Eventually the awkwardness will go away.
I would keep going to in person dating events and not put much stock into dating apps.
I’m just really bad with talking to women man. I don’t know why. I never get conversations on dating apps. I can’t flirt for the life of me either. I’m just broken.
Dude im horrible at talking to women. My first date with my wife was a drawing date. We didnt talk about anything then ate some pizza. Had a great time. That was about 9 years ago
Ah you don’t sound like you are on here anyway haha. That’s a really wholesome story dude, I guess that line in Pulp Fiction rings true about when you can share silence with someone, then you find someone truly special. Good on you!
Im really bad at small talk. I just dont know how to do it. But i can chat about peculiar things. But like standard 1st dates were usually a bomb and awkward lol.
Do you enjoy reading? There is a book I love called “How to Be a People Magnet”. I used it for business and social interactions, which did carry over to my dating life. It really made a difference in my interactions with people. I highly recommend it!
The key to first dates is to do an activity (like miniature golf, billiards, bowling, escape room, etc.) over going to dinner and such. There are less expectations of an intriguing conversation if energy is being diverted to an activity in the beginning. You don’t have to come up with as much to talk about as half your time is occupied with whatever activity you are doing. Plus, it makes the date more enjoyable for both parties, even if there ends up being little chemistry.
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