Just 72 days away now. The guest list exploded to 99, although we expect 80 to show up. Much bigger than I wanted. We had also preferred an outdoor setting at my parents house in a field but it was just too much to coordinate on my own.
Church wedding, then onto a really cool, rustic bar and banquet hall for the reception with a pond out back for portraits.
Wedding dress, I can only hope to look as good as the model. The photographer will have to be a miracle worker.
I have appointment at Look Good Feel Better to learn how to apply makeup. And so far I’ve kept my hair during chemo. I’m prepared to wear a hat, sort of flapper style, if need be. But I’ll still need a haircut before the wedding, hopefully it won’t be so fragile. And learn how to style it myself for the big day.
Ring purchased already, on sale to boot. and Shoe options:
I chose the white and silver because the heel was shorter. The yellow shoe i loved but it was suede and the material will be weird with the crepe material of the dress.
Also got good news today. Our pastor has agreed to do the ceremony, finally. And we have booked the church, finally. Next up pre-marital counseling and figuring out the day’s timeline. Then to quickly order the invites. My mom is doing the calligraphy, if there is time.
Ohh, and we had a dance lesson for our first dance. we learned the rhumba.
I guess that’s all for now. Willing to talk to anyone about wedding planning, advice and other users wedding days.
My mom is going to flip out. I told her I was wearing flats. Then changed my mind to a heel for dancing and bringing sneakers under the sweetheart table, if i need to change. Well, my mom is 5’ tall and very insecure about it. I’m 5’11’’ and a 2.5" heel puts me over 6’ a full foot taller than her. oh well.
We, mom and I, are growing the flowers ourselves. I’ve planted snapdragons, marigolds, dusty miller and coleus. And today I’m seeding in Zinnias, sweet william, rananuculus and gladiolus bulbs. All my mom wants to order is baby’s breath to use as filler. we have a ton of mason jars. And they are being placed on wooden slabs that my dad cut and my brother is sanding and finishing.
I hated my wedding, too many people I didn’t know. Still don’t understand why we couldn’t just elope and get married by Fat Elvis in Vegas. We spent too much money on people I can’t stand to be around, on a crappy cake that looked good, but was like styrofoam, and on a dress that was only worn once.
@anon84763962 so far my health remains good. The tumor has shrunk to almost nothing. Just a few more chemo tx’s then surgery. IDK what comes after that, could be more chemo or radiation. The chemo has been pretty easy. I still have a bunch of hair left. although it is thin and fragile. I’m exercising a little every day. I am worried about the day of, I get tired of people so easily and I’ll need to be sociable all day. Also after surgery, not using the affected side so i don’t have complications will be hard. Especially setting up the wedding. I’m trying to get my fiance to go camping and kayaking as much as possible while we can.
@shutterbug I feel what you went through with your wedding. I either wanted to elope or have a small party after with just cake and a toast. But my fiance wants the whole Shebang and feels guilty towards his parents if we do something other than traditional. we are just buying a supermarket cake that tastes like… plain cake. I’m over the dress price… I just got what I wanted and it was reasonable for NY. I do plan on keeping the dress for a child to wear or to have made into a baptism dress should we be blessed with children when this cancer thing is over.
@Jonnybegood that sounds like the perfect wedding to me. Short and simple.
Also we will be hosting 14-16 people at an airbnb for the weekend to add to all the stress. So I still have to figure out how to feed everyone. We are prepared to eat the cost of the house should people not pay their portions, as this is what happened to my brother and SIL on the $3,000 house they rented for their wedding.
