So true Patrick !
Dad was my example. He only slapped mom once since I was born. He regretted it. Otherwise he was a real gentleman with mom and women in general.
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I think you need to re-read what I wrote. None of what you said has anything to do with my arguments.
my dad has never hit anyone even none of the three of us the children.
But he cursed a lot and had anger issues. I think a part of it is why I have the racing thoughts. It is constant misery like I got it from him or something?!
I donât think my mom even has ever hit any of us. Maybe my brother, who knows.
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Okay, watching less porn is good but that correlates to sex drive and age. Making porn illegal is even better because banning it would prevent minors from accessing the material, however a black market for porn will still exist. A law against porn is not against human nature especially if people are trying to profit from porn by distributing it. Sex is for procreation & pleasure. How a country, a society or culture goes about it is different for each one.
I think watching porn can effect how you treat women (or men) at any age.
Iâve never gotten into it, myself. Iâve seen it before, but mostly by accident. It grossed me out and I didnât like it.
I have family members who struggle with it, though. My oldest brother treats women like sexual objects and he is very disgusting in his humour and behavior, sometimes.
He is still into porn, and some of the things Iâve heard about him from other people make me sick. I wish it didnât exists, tbh. 
Iâm confused⌠Do you mind defining âgood pornâ?
Porn that aids and encourages a healthy, respectful sexuality
Oh, Iâve never heard of such a thing. However, I donât watch porn, so that may be why.
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Donât get me wrong, there is a lot of unhealthy porn. But there is some good stuff.
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Hmm, good to know.
I donât know how this study was conducted ?? 
was it anonymous⌠?
@exhile when introducing myself I would definitely shake hands.
You know itâs just like quitting pot.
Pot affects the reward system of the brain and research has shown that habitual users wind up with significantly reduced dopamenergic responses all around, including that in response to using cannabis.
However, once the habit is broken the brain slowly starts to restore itâs more expected functionality.
Iâve been looking at porn since the birth of the internet almost. Hah, itâs a very indecent realm of web. Iâve seen â â â â that I wish I hadnât, but Iâm also not a close-minded feller. There are some benefits to the awareness of things.
If anything porn has affected my attitude towards men. Porn wouldnât be what it is if all the men werenât continuing to pay for it. Perhaps itâs the same men that this study is seeing have a poor attitude towards women.
At any rate the ill effects of our indulgences are something to be mindful of all around.
If I imagine what my perspective on sex would be if I hadnât watched porn I would be a very nervous and typical type manchild. Seemingly more innocent and trustworthy, less exposed to whatâs out there so therefore more comfortable with whatever I get.
However, I wouldnât have nearly the understanding I do of what women are about and what all the subtleties indicate. I mean I make them girls happy and usually just let them leave. Itâs funny how backwards it can be. Women seem to fancy using me and never want to stick around⌠but itâs not due to bad sex⌠they just get their curiosity satisfied and move on to keep being free to figure out what they want.
You can watch porn and still have appropriate respect for the individuals on the globe all being people⌠let sex be that more or less irrelevant thing that is just strange all around anyways⌠Not let it control you.
Guilt is a huge play in addiction. Itâs not good to isolate the addicts as strange or bizarre or leave them defined solely by their addictions. It leaves them trapped in a focus.
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Just like minors have no access to drugs? And no access to torrents? 
And you see no problem with making porn a hugely profitable criminal market? Like maybe how the porn actors are treated and recruited? Or the other criminal activities it will fund, like human trafficking? This idea is beyond stupid.
Obviously, porn is not human nature since so many people do fine without it. That was not was I was suggesting. But seeking sexual gratification is human nature, and people will find the most accessible ways to do that. Making porn illegal is trying to fight human nature, and itâs bound to fail, and bound to have very negative consequences. There are better ways to fight any potential negative effects of porn.
Yes as I see no problem with making pedophilia and contract-killing a hugely profitable criminal market ( I donât think that it should be illegal but this argument is weak).
Itâs not, really. Comparing people who watch porn with pedophiles and contract-killers is a weak argument.
Not all minors do drugs or have access to it. It all depends on the personality of the minor. I donât know how the porn industry operates but different laws in different countries will regulate the porn industry.
There is more to life than sexual gratification. Life is a multi-prong approach where family, children, work and relationships all have importance to a person. I would say that the restrictions on porn in certain countries has been quite successful actually. I donât think there is a right or wrong approach to make porn legal or illegal. It all depends on the country of origin youâre from and how you are raised about the subject.
Some countries have made the production of porn illegal. That works if you want the industry out of your country - the porn movies will just get made in other countries. I donât know of any country where you can get fined or jailed just for watching porn (at least not straight porn 
). Maybe North Korea. That seems like a country that could punish you for something like that.
Your argument could easily be used to support pedophilia and contract killing because it makes no moral definition or distinction:
Just like pedophiles have no access to kids? And no access to torrents?
@exhile I donât like your last comment.
there are lots of people not interested in children.
Family- I donât see why you should bother to care for family in particular after all humanity is one big family.
Work- not for all!
Lots of people if you take away the financial incentive are more than happy not to work.
So your view is very superficial.