Therapy. Is it worth it?

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My most difficulties in life come with interaction to other people.
I’ve found many answers I wanted about myself. Such as what I want to do in my life, I have a partial understanding about who I am, my character, my strenghts, my weakneses, also intellect, etc.
I mean, I know I feel good while being alone.
I feel great in my own head. I have minor issues with anxiety, but it’s controllable.
Depression is not the case at all, and I have some answers why it lowered. While I work on my self esteem, spend less time in social media, and just look for answers within (even small things, such as what i want to wear, where I want to go today, etc.) I mean I am kind of a pscyhologist myself now, lol :smiley: I could help people to find some answers on how to feel better.

But when it comes to communication and anger management… :frowning: I want to understand, why I cannot stay silent when I am angry, why am I so straightforward and why it’s hard to maintain relationships. Not even maintain… it’s hard for me to not be impulsive, to not say ‘I am done, we’re not friends anymore, you did that…’ And then I regret! I mean I am the one which ends the relationships, and then I regret. HELL.

all my body says that I need to learn to be more flexible, diplomatic, not so straigtforward. I need to be… I wouldn’t want to say more emphatetic, but more sensitive, more understanding others.

I know my intentions are almost always good. I know I love being straigtforward. But it hurts others. They not always want to hear that ‘truth’ of mine. I know, I was growing up in a family where I needed to fight for my opinion, to be heard, to be loved. Maybe these character issues of mine comes from a deeper problem.

So. Main question. Is it worth investing time? I tried many therapists, pscyhologists, but after a more than three or four monhts I couldn’t handle it. I felt pressure to tell everything in detail, even the things I wasn’t feeling ready to open about yet, and also I felt kind of misunderstood.

I worry only because… I really feel better now, I am finally feeling more self love, self respect, I know my worth better now, but one thing is that relationships are even worse now. Sometimes I am annoyed by people only because I remember what they said or did to me long time ago.

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Also, I want to add I reaally thought my character becomes worse around family members.
But it’s not the case! I also lose friends, always end up in arguments after more time with a person.
I thought my parents and my brother is the problem, but I am also somewhat of a problem.

Also, I am not agressive, I never punch or scream. (Also I don’t throw or break things :smiley: )
But I say things which makes people a wish to stop interacting with me.

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We have zero choice in who the therapist is on the NHS in uk

The one I had was awful

Might be getting more sessions next year but not hopeful about it

I find it all a bit wooly

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I didn’t read all of your text because it is too much. But in case your question is if therapy is worth it Id say YES. Especially if it’s about “fear” to socialise. I think it could be trained to get back on level.

I want to do it myself but didn’t find time for it yet.

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If I were given therapy I would grab it. Unfortunately I’m not accepted.

Worth trying but up to u essentially

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What’s the reason to comment then… :confused: I mean it’s not about a fear to socialise at all.

That’s what annoys me the most while mentioning social media, articles, too.

Some people only read the title which might not even relate to the actual content, and then they leave comments that are completely off-topic. I’ve seen some really funny situations where people comment the exact opposite of what the article is actually saying!

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I hated therapy when i was in the community mental health program, they kept pushing DBT on me and telling me that my parents abused me (when they did NOT). So now i see a therapist who i actually like…i consider her a friend even tho she makes me work. We mostly do CBT with a little DBT thrown in. I was paying her $25 a session every 2 weeks on their financial assistance program but when i was in the hospital my therapist said she wanted to see me weekly…so she cut my price per session to $12.50! I know she’s not making any money on me but she obviously cares…i think that’s what makes her a good therapist, she has empathy.

Long story short…therapy can help you but you need to find the right therapist who will “fit” you.

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Through experience I’ve noticed that there are a lot of incompetent subpar therapists out there
Most of them don’t know what they are doing and are out for a quick buck.
I’ve only had one excellent therapist but unfortunately had to leave her because she doesn’t accept my insurance
My current therapists talks to me over the phone for 4 minutes to “check up on me”
I don’t consider that therapy.

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Do you do sports, @anon59838832 ?

I’ve found that physical exercise helps me deal with anger.

For most people, running or swimming should be enough. Extremely angry people could try martial arts or boxing.

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If u get a good therapist they will respect your timing and only want to help not just push u when ur really not ready. If u can get a good one I would go for it …they might be able to help you with your anger and relationships issues :person_shrugging:t5:

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Yea it’s worth it.

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I reconnected with a therapist who I saw before. He also works with my psychiatrist. He understands mental illness and has a lot of experience being a therapist. He is open minded and will talk about politics and religion. He knows all my secrets and my life story pretty much. He plays drums like I do and writes his own music and sings. I have been very emotional with him regarding my addiction and he helped me stop using marijuana and alcohol. He himself is a recovered alcoholic and he understands abusing substances. We have good chats and he has a good sense of humor and is also serious about my opinion of myself. He even tells me he is a atheist when I was telling him my concept of life. He accepts me as I am as long as I am not using alcohol or marijuana. He helps me with my anger issues and understands the family situation I am in. He is trying to help me not be so hard on myself and is someone I can always have a weekly chat with about my life. It costs me $100 a month but it is worth it for me. I have someone I can talk to that I enjoy talking with. I can express my views of my situation in life with him openly. I feel secure with him and have some trust in him. I also listen to his music he creates and admire him.

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I have found therapy to be helpful. In my opinion though, it is important to find a therapist that you feel comfortable with.

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My current therapist of five plus years still doesn’t know all of my thoughts and personal quirks. I figured I was in therapy bc of the sexual assault and not the other parts of me that I am totally comfortable with.

It’s okay to take your time when disclosing details about your life.

And yes they are worth it provided you find one you click with so some shopping may be required.

Best wishes for you.

:slight_smile:

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I have a therapist. I can’t judge her because I have only seen her three times. She’s a straight woman that seems to me to be rather over interested in my friendship with my former (female) lover. (She doesn’t know re. this, but she suspects).

Anyway, we seem to not have much to talk about because my only problem is paranoia and she doesn’t have any answers for that.

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I’ve got a good CBT therapist that I am looking forward to working with. I think it’s worth it

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