I went grocery shopping after work today. I had no break at work. I got home, put groceries away, started laundry and fed the cat. My husband gets home and is doing a scratchy whistling that he does a lot. I couldn’t handle it. I asked him why he “does that”, and when he said he was whistling Christmas songs I said, “that’s not whistling”.
So, I get that it’s not his fault that my head is buzzing with noise already after a busy day, but I still think he could care about why it’s bothering me and not get defensive about my comment. He’s watching football now in the other room.
I really hate having to be the grouch when I’m the one who has all this noise in my head. I’m tired of explaining patiently when he chooses to forget. Why can’t someone just say, “did you have a stressful day?” “Is there anything I can do to help you?”
Did you have a stressful day? 
It might be helpful to let him know you had a bad day or that there’s noise in your head instead of expecting him to read your mind.
He was probably just hurt that you seemed to have a go at him and then he reacted that way. I’m not taking his side or anything but he’s not psychic so all he saw was that you berated him probably.
I’m sorry you’re having such a bad day.
I used to get annoyed at people too for not caring when I was suffering. But our suffering is kind of silent and hidden.
Maybe talk to him.
Thank you, @GrayBear. Yes, it was a stressful day. It’s Friday, though, so I get to rest now.
@LilyoftheValley, you’re right. He’s only human. I talked with him, @everhopeful, and he listened, which is all I needed.
I’m dealing with a stressful job where I get no support. And my family is going through yet another crisis. I’m feeling the stress of it all tonight.
But I’m going to try to push it all aside tonight and get up again tomorrow for a better day.
Good for you. That is a great attitude to have. Keep your chin up. 
@Hedgehog
You want to be understood and given compassion. And he does, too. I hope you can be that for each other tonight after a stressful day.
@Hedgehog
What’s happening at work?
A good rule of thumb is, don’t go to sleep angry. 
I used to work mostly individually and now I’m more part of a team, but this “team” is very unsupportive. It’s a long story, and things have improved somewhat, but it’s stressful because I can’t rely on anyone. There’s also the added stress of the others being friendly with each other and not with me. It wears on me.
@Hedgehog
Wow. That’s super hard. Especially in a work environment where you spend a lot of time. Sad for you!
Thanks, @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter. I keep telling myself that I need to look on the bright side. My actual assignment (the student I work with) is great. It’s just my coworkers who are hard to deal with. It’s an old wound of never fitting in, but this time I really think it’s them more than me. The only thing I can do, though, is just keep trying/going to work, and do my job well.
Thank you for being supportive 
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