Root of my insecurity?----Not accepting my imperfections

I think if I just see me as beautiful the way I am I will become more beautiful. I am constantly trying to change to make up for my imperfections. I am trying to change my personality, I am trying to change how I look. If I just accept that I am who I am I will become perfect already. It will be a lot less anxiety too. I accept a lot of people despite their imperfections so why shouldn’t I accept myself?

Then again a lot of people I reject because of their imperfections.

But if I accept myself better maybe I will accept them better.

I don’t know why I felt the need to become more “perfect” when I was 19…oh yes I do know, because I hooked up with this girl and she told me I was “perfect”…and then I started going out with another girl and I was constantly chasing her. By chasing her, I was chasing this image of me being perfect. Because really I was chasing myself rather than her??? But by chasing I was just running away. Because I wasn’t always like this!!! I used to view myself as fine just the way I was. I didn’t strive for much in life. I didn’t change at all ever. As a result I was different from my peers growing up. I was underdeveloped. But I was happy!!! It’s like I was more enlightened before I thought about enlightenment. Less egotistical before I thought about ego. It was thinking about these things that made me strive for perfection that does not exist!!

Now I have made strides, but learn to accept myself before I can see real results.

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Yes, indeed, imperfections.

I remember now all I wanted to say is, the best reality check for some of us might be “everyone makes mistakes”.

I admired a good-looking singer and wanted to become like him. A perfect look.

Yes, I can tell you, Goyankees, by admitting you’re an imperfect man will relieve your burden.

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