@Goyankees I am so proud of you for quitting porn. I think it is so much healthier and one step closer to having a meaningful relationship with a woman. Keep it up (no pun intended)
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My husband does not now, nor has he ever gotten into porn or masturbation. He is the mentally/emotionally healthiest sexual partner Iāve ever had. I had many problems from early childhood sexual abuse. I was very hung up. But being with him was so wholesome and loving Iāve overcome many problems. If he was into porn and masturbation I would not feel as loved and wholesome and Iād still be having problems. So quitting may be your first step to finding your wife - you never know.
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Yeah it sounds like not too big of a deal but I think quitting porn could make a big difference in many ways.
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It seems like a big deal to me, keep going!
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Good job. Porn is bad for oneās mental health just by common sense because itās not normal to see all that sex everyday, porn is bad, masturbation is good.
If a guy doesnāt masturbate, he will just have nocturnal emissions. Masturbation can be healthy, but when taken to its extreme, it can be damaging. This is true for both guys and girls. Overstimulation/desensitization can happen, but it usually doesnāt happen unless the person is masturbating way more than once a day.
And in my experience, very few people come during penetration when they first start having sex. Itās a totally different sensation, and it just takes your body time to adjust. That is a perfectly normal and healthy thing to experience.
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Zeno, I am not sure what to think of your post that real sex is so awful??? Maybe if you have a one night stand after a night of heavy drinking and smoking and eating on the go with a stranger questionable woman that is not taking care of herself, this might apply. However in my experience, past and present, I have been only with women who take care of themselfs well and are wonderful to be intimate with. I never felt repulsed by any of the women I had relationships with. Some were more appealing than others but all of them were not repulsive to me. And I dont believe in one night stands at allā¦maybe thats why I havent experienced this before but maybe once. If you go on dates for a while and let things develop slowly, when youre ready to have sexual relations, then youre ready and prepared, so you made sure you are at your best. Anyway, I am sorry if you have such a low opinion of real sex, maybe dont go for one night stands only and go for women who take care of themselfs as you have to take care of yourself to be as attractive as possible.
@normalone, some people are asexual, and just donāt find sex appealing in any form. Itās just a sexual preference, similar to being gay or straight. These people still might enjoy masturbation, but are not physically attracted to others.
and some people are attracted to animals and small babies, is that so natural as well???
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you got to make a judgement whats good and whats badā¦and excessive porn and masturbation like multiple times a day is bad in my opinion. The real thing beween two consenting adults is much betterā¦this is a qualitative judgement I know.
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Well no, those things are illegal. Masturbation is not illegal. Itās not the same thing. Please try to remember that we have a very diverse group of people on here, and not everyone will share your viewpoints. As long as nobody is getting hurt, you have to show respect for personal differences.
lol; those things happen during sex even if you are prepared because you are very close to one another, you are doing physical activity and your body is expelling some weird liquids. Then if you add social anxiety, anhedonia, paranoia and avolition to the mix, you will get an asexual. 
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just get off my case ok, I think its uncalled for. I am expressing my opinion like the rest of them. And no its not āreasonā telling Goyankees that real sex is awfulā¦!!! While masturbating and porn is not illegal, its not the best form of sexual activity at all. Porn is awful, its like a drug for people, its a massive brain washing of the population, the amount of porn is just incredible and its damages people- those in the industry and those who consume it and it damages relationships all the time those of people in the industry and those of people who consume it. if you going to defend something because its legal then at least be consistentā¦alcohol is legal and you mods are really touchy about that. Inconsitent. Maturbation is a problem to many people and you should not let others promote it, just as you dont let anyone promote alcohol drinking (legal or not). OK?
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Masurbation can be healthy or unhealthy, depending on the person in question. Alcohol is just unhealthy. Try not to fall into the trap of thinking everything is comparable to everything else. Different things have different moral values to different people. Masturbation is only unhealthy if it interferes with your ability to live your life the way you want. All the negatives you talk about donāt really apply to someone who is asexual.
If you canāt respect the personal differences of others, you will need to take a break.
Alcohol is a great thing if you can control it. What are you talking about??? Red wine is healthy according to many studies. Beer has nutrients. I think you are just in a power game right now and I hope you can get past this.
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Yes @Ninjastar I saw a recent report that alcohol is bad even in moderation.
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People here are almost all on medication. Alcohol and antipsychotics is a very dangerous combination and can damage your liver. We are not the general public. Also, the rules have been set in place here for years. We wonāt suddenly change them to match your own personal moral code.
I think youre not informed well about masturbation and porn. I can give you some references and statistics that will open your eyes about how bad it really is. if you want. This is not religion talking, this is bad as in by very empircal standards.
Alcohol and drugs hinder recovery and exacerbate schizophrenic symptoms, masturbation and porn do not. Furthermore while it may be true that porn damages (normal) people and their normal relationships, schizophrenics often live in a different dimension, completely separated from the world and so it may help them explore the sexual world that they canāt access.
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I am aware that it can be unhealthy in certain circumstances. I even said as much. But it can also be a healthy part of human sexuality. I personally masturbate at least four times a week, and it has not interfered with my ability to have sex with my husband at all. It strengthens our sex life.
You really need to calm down about this.