Do I leave my family and move up north where I can purchase a property outright and drastically reduce my outgoings, or stay with my family and get financially crucified?
- Leave
- Stay
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You might need support as you grow older and get more negatives so I say stay.
Can u still visit your family?
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Do you feel well enough to leave? I know I’m stuck at home forever. Luckily my family is cool.
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Why does staying home do this? Are they taking all your money?
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After my mom died here in 2018, I thought I would move east to where my sister is. But when I looked into it, the cost of living is so high there, there was no way I could afford it. I had to stay here where I can afford to live on my own and have psychiatric care.through a charitable organization. My current housing is $575 a month in charitable low income retired teachers housing which I would give up and never get back again. The rent went up to $700 a month, but I am grandfathered in at $575 with my lease. They only charge $700 to new people moving in.
maybe once or twice a year
Not really well at the moment just waiting to start Clozapine
My family lives in an expensive area, and I can’t really afford to live down here being practical. But my family is here 
That’s pretty good that you got that deal!
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Well, it depends-- is your family supportive? If you need them, will they help you?
Ideally, you would want to purchase the property, but in case you will need help, they should be around. So, it hard to say, really.
It is I don’t know what to do. Spoke to my mother and she will not move home from here
Well, I would move up north. Think about my future. However, you could keep in touch with your family…but you have to think about what makes you better off.
Thanks Joker. I worked as a substitute public school teacher for a couple of years which qualified me. Here in Arkansas USA they don’t pay public school teachers anything let alone a substitute whose required education is an associate’s degree. Regular teachers have to have a bachelor’s degree.
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I don’t know what you should do. If you need support you should stay by your family. If you’re quite independent you could move. How long of a drive is it between the two locations?
Probably a 4-5 hour drive away
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It’s going to sound harsh but you’re a bit of a train wreck at the moment, I don’t see how isolating yourself further is going to help at all.
PS. Why north? Unless you mean somewhere nice like York or Durham you might find it a bit bleak, especially in winter
I think you should try to stay near family. That’s too far away.
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I digress. Sod your family - go up north and buy a cheaper property.
Are they gonna bail you out if you get in financial crap? Probably no.
Do one mate - and live your life to the fullest. x
I live in South East England, which is very expensive because it’s too close to London
Need to move somewhere more affordable is my thinking.
The family thing is important to me as well though, but I am not sure whether I can afford to live here without a job
I won’t get any legacy benefits, as it’s all Universal Credit now, and it’s not enough to sustain my living arrangements even if I cut spending drastically.
Probably not no
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That’s what they think too.
I don’t know anyone else around here any more.
It sucks.
My home is here, but it’s too rich for my blood.
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@Joker They’ve got a point (your family this is) Only the other day, and not for the first time, you spoke of you wish to be lobotomised. Build up your strength before embarking on such a complex move.
You’re probably right
RE the lobotomy it seems that I have been mis-treated.
Now I have to try Clozapine and this will apparently sort me out. But we’ll see what happens with that
Wishing for this is just a suicidal, self-destructive and painful wish to evacuate from my head, as it irritates me
Who knows how crazy my musings here makes other people. Sorry
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