I had this discussion with my friend about how I felt like too much freedom destroyed me. She said she grew up in a strict, highly disciplined family of 10 kids. No freedom. Her mom was a nurse and always worked. She was raised by her dad, a university professor, and he was strict. She dreamed of freedom. She travels the world now and is close to retiring. We do Bible study together. All of her siblings are either business owners, college educated, good families with good values. I think the grass is always greener. I think no matter what path you choose in life you’re figuring stuff out and I think it’s natural that people struggle. Suffering is the human condition. No matter what path you choose in life: one of many freedoms or one of discipline all paths will lead to suffering while you’re living life and trying to figure things out. I think people want money, sex, and religion because these things help alleviate some of our suffering. Have a good day.
Spending today wondering how the hell I wound up specialized in commercial auto insurance.
Ugh.
I was supposed to have a playtest at a video game studio today but they ended up canceling it and pushed it back to next Wednesday… Looking forward to it! shrugs
asked my mom once “why cant we just be born enlightened”
i do agree suffering builds character
My parents were Christian and somewhat strict. I went to a Christian prep school for middle school and my mom would often restrict me from hanging out with friends. She was also an alcoholic. Anyways, the first signs of Schizophrenia (cognitive) occurred around then in middle school.
When I got sick my friend asked me if I wanna do Bible study. I said sure. We did Bible study Monday thru Friday from 7am to 9am. After 4 years of doing Bible study like this I complained to my friend. I said I’ve been studying for so long and I don’t understand any of these stories or the purpose or deeper meaning behind them, I’m miserable I’d rather sleep in than do this, I’m not happier after doing all of this I’m more miserable. Then, shortly after everything just clicked one day. I understood all of the stories and deeper meanings behind them, it gave me a sense of peace. It was like the matrix where neo found out he was the one and started seeing the matrix code. I learned from this that when it comes to growth or learning a new skill you need to surrender to the process and put in the work eventually good things will come. You can apply this to any area of life. Thanks for sharing.
Life is about choosing your suffering.
You can’t really choose if you get abused and suffer for it, but I guess you could choose if one day you get help.
I was not thinking if you were a victim of abuse.
I was thinking of mastering something. Like if you want a great body, you go through a lot of pain working out and dieting. Or a boxer that gets beat up while working out. Perhaps if you are an artist or mathematician putting your mind to work endlessly for hours. Even a philosopher that disregards his needs thinking for hours is a form of suffering.
With that I meant that you need to choose your suffering. Nothing in life comes easily and without pain.
If you crave and desire things it causes inner anguish.
Even if you get what you desire, the joy is fleeting or a sense of disappointment arises (buyers’ remorse) and the craving just switches to another object.
It is a constant cycle and unfulfilling.
To not want, or to even give up on wanting because you can’t have it (ever) is relaxing too.
(It is Buddhist philosophy if you want the theory behind it)
Maybe we’ll never know
But I do believe I’ve learned a lot from abuse which lead to suffering
I’m only 34 yes I’ve wasted most my life away because of abuse still have my whole life ahead
That’s my personal experience
I like to think “every touch of grey has a silver lining”. This mantra saved me from not being able to deal with abuse.
Without abuse still I’d suffer but Id maybe work an average job with an average life I feel and not feel fulfilled anyways
I do think I’ve found a greater insight, spirituality, enlightenment from abuse.
Yes it still bothers me. Life couldn’t ever be perfect that’s for sure.
I think steering away from pain is a good way to more suffering.
Face it head on.
Wow, that’s a lot of bible study and that’s cool your brain got it. The hardest part of schizophrenia for me is hanging out with people I don’t know well. I mean like the poverty of thoughts and emotions increase my paranoia. It’s been slowly getting better though. I’m taking a supplement called palmitoylethanolamide. Seems to be helping with negative symptoms.
But do people really suffer that much? Some people do. But the majority dont
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