I only wish that to people who damaged others intentionally.
The rest should socialize if they wish.
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Most of the time I am alone. But socializing really helps
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I see what youāre saying, however that didnāt fair okay with me when I isolated myself like for a long period of timeā¦ i canāt isolate myself for more than a day. I have concerned family and friends.
Iāve isolated a lot. Eventually it catches up with you. I have like a personality disorder and sza and probably cognitive problems.
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I donāt do so well when Iām completely by myself.
I need some social interaction, even if itās with my temperamental old dad.
This weekend, two of my aunts will be staying over for a couple of days.
I donāt mind.
Itās nice to be around some family once in a while.
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Highly disagree for myself, I need others in my life. Being alone never ended well for me. One of the reasons Iām here everyday is to socialize and fight isolation.
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I think youāre projecting an insecurity or a false belief about schizophrenics.
I guess I should be more specific. I think itās okay to socialize have friends which I do have friends wish I had alot more but it is what it is but when it comes to dating and having a mate(marriage) the illness destroys close relationships and causes damage to the person who has schizophrenia itās best to be alone. Itās hard for a person with schizophrenia to conform in relationships because you deal with that person who wants normal and you cant present normal thatās damaging to both parties best to be alone in that aspect.
I think itās best that you have a family you can rely on. Such as mom ,dad, and siblings if being able to socialize is impaired for you. Itās not good to isolate.
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Yes thank you. If I didnāt have my bf my mom even my father. Iād be on edge. I might dislike folks right now Iāll get over it.
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I have been alone 99% of the time for 30+ years, I canāt get that time back
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I have never been one for much social interaction. Thatās combined with never really knowing how to get and make friends. Thereās a place in town where mentally ill people can meet. The social worker who did the care assessment mentioned it.
My stepdaughter ,who works full time , would have to come with me till I got used to getting/going there. Then there is the issue of it being a day when the activity is one I wouldnāt struggle to do.
Iāve looked at next months activities: These are first 2 weeks.
Sewing-no, garden craft-no,life skills/small group cooking- possible, swimming-getting there! Ā£2.05, book club-not one for reading in front of others/if not that donāt read much anyway,bingo-not my thing but would play, skittles- no, skittles and meal somewhere Iād struggle to get to = Ā£14 -no.
Cooking for lunch=Ā£4-possible? , ramblers- fear of getting lost!, drama-no, garden club/garden craft-no, tai chi -no, tea at local cafe-possible , depends where it is=Ā£3, life skills/small group cooking,swimming, quiz time- possible, fish and chips Ā£4 not sure if with quiz time , singers Ā£1.50-no.
I do spend a lot of time alone. I have always like being alone. I find solitude in being alone. But I also crave being around friends and family at times. Being alone does help with the lack of social skills. I live if my brother and see my youngest son regularly that helps me to fill some of the social life.
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I would like to have my friends again.
I donāt think I could take the over stimulation though.
Iād have to keep it to a minimum until I felt more comfortable.
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No. It is not better to be alone with this mess in our minds.
We NEED to have normal people close to show us and remind us how to human.
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Itās not necessarily damaging for a schizophrenic to be around a family member, if heās high functioning. I donāt yell at or suspect the family members I live with, I just say hi to them and chat and try to be appreciative of the company. We have a pretty good relationship now that Iāve recovered to this point.
Iām married and I work Monday thru Friday with a āteamā of people, and I agree with you wholeheartedly!
I love my husband, I think he loves me, but being married has added more stress than it relieves. Itās very difficult for both of us. It feels unfair to him because Iām complicated and burdensome in ways, and itās unfair to me because he doesnāt even try to understand and probably couldnāt if he did try.
I used to work more independently, and this year Iām in a situation where thereās a āteamā. Itās been the worst work year of my life. I stick out like a sore thumb and Iām not oblivious to my abnormalities so itās caused me a lot of emotional pain. The people I work with have ostracized me continuously, which is sucky on their part, but I know theyāre just doing what people have always done. The common factor is me.
So, yes, being alone would allow me to be myself without the constant reminders and rejectionsā¦
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I think thereās an important balance. Iām in a situation where Iām not alone as much as I need to be. I feel pummeled by the constant reminders that I donāt fit inā¦
On the other hand, I know that I get lonely if Iām alone too much. I do need some interaction.
Balance in this, as in everything, is important.
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I totally agree with you. Iām my worst self since Iāve been in a relationship/marriage. All I get is constant reminders like yourself of how I dont fit in and Iām abnormal. To the point where my therapist pointed out that I was better and more independent before I meet my husband. This has been very damaging to me and Iām trying so hard to break free and be alone again. I mean not totally alone I have friends family and now church but alone as far as having a significant other. Iām not planning on dating or meeting anyone else due to my paranoia and the fact that I know now that it would just be like this.
Iām a complete loner. The question is are you an introvert and a loner. ( In a cool way) even before schiz happened. I know I was
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