I rarely very rarely date. I’ve never been in a relationship to be honest and it does kind of bug me being 29 because it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me, which there is but anyway. Now all of a sudden I feel a little overwhelmed. Because I’m about to go on my second date this month. My mother didn’t even ask me she just gave this other guy my number. Never met him but will be doing so hopefully this weekend. Kind of weird if it does work out though. Cos he has the same name as my brother lol
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Good luck
I’m 42 and never had proper long lasting boyfriend I haven’t had social life have had problems with schiz
But it’s good to go on dates
Have fun!
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Man, wouldn’t you rather pick out your own dates? Blind dates are harder than regular dates. With blind dates you don’t know what your getting. At least if you picked your own date you know what each other looks like so there’s no surprises there. You know if your attracted already if you’ve seen the guy.
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i havnt been in much relationship either, i am a good looking guy and good personality, but it just never happened yet, longest like 3 months, but most less.
i wouldnt worry about it though it is not a race.
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Well I would if I could pick out my own dates. But how do I go about doing that? lol I have zero experience. So I kind of gave up in the end. I have spoken to the guy he seems very nice I like his voice 
and I’ve seen a pic of him and he is a little bald but I won’t know if I’m attracted to him until I meet him.
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Yeah I got nervous when i saw the first one but I feel a little more confident now.
A girl can aggressively seek out a date sometimes but most of the time the trick is to LET guys ask you out.
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I’m 55, and I’ve been in only one long term relationship. I hope this works out for you, but I wouldn’t worry if it doesn’t. There are a lot of ways to be happy.
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I would say the illness of schizophrenia has a dreadful physical impact on romantic relationships. So wish you good luck and not get difficult men as dating partners.
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My worst fear is telling him I have schiz and him rejecting me on that basis.
Don’t tell him that. The other day you said you haven’t got an ‘official’ diagnosis. So, later tell him what happened but don’t call it sz.
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Is that a good idea? What if I do have schiz because although I don’t have an official diagnosis they do suspect I have it.
A rose by any other name would smell as sweet! I mean that muggles like me are often scared by the word schizophrenia because all we know is dramatic stories from the press. If you describe your actual experiences, they are not so very strange and scary. You have had some mental health problems, but not all the time, not at a terribly extreme degree and you are ok now. If you get that across, later you can talk about the name of your illness. (He might recognize the description of course). But I think you are best to date for a few weeks first. You don’t have to tell everyone everything at first meeting. He will have a few things he’s not telling at first, I’m sure.
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good luck.
take care
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I was always up front with my illness so the person can “flake out” if she wanted just for knowing…if you tell them and they leave, it wasn’t meant to be…
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There is no reason to tell this guy anything like that!
Its your first date. Wait until you have known him for a while, or turns into something serious. if your parents set this up, they may have already told him--so you really dont have to worry about saying anything.
Enjoy and good luck!
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My parents have never met the guy nor do they accept my Ilness
That old saying, When it rains, it pours comes to mind. Good for you, getting out of your comfort box and meeting new people.
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sigh He seemed like he was in a rush because he had some errands to run. The date only lasted 30 mins and he said he’d give me a shout. i doubt it. And I thought it was going well but oh well…
online dating is the way to go. Introverts are into it. I have had some success with people from online dating but they didnt like the whole “by the way I have schizophrenia” thing.
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