Hmm I really started realising I look older than I am actually. Maybe it’s because of smoking. Maybe genetics
((Need to stop smoking haha))
Idk… strange though, but I feel terrible cause of it. Like as a teen I wanted to look more like an adult, but now I simply dislike it. I try to accurately describe to myself how i look, and probably it’s somewhere between 26-28.
While I am only 23.
Maybe it’s fear of getting older overall.
I know that many people are afraid of getting older… it’s strange how appearances changes but deeply inside I still feel like a child.
Beauty is only in the beholder. This means when you get to my age. 60 You can see beauty in the wrinkles. Are the expressions that they give. Crazy as it may seem. I was in an automobile accident as a teenager. A totally reconstructed my face. I will never know what I would normally look like. Feel privileged.
@DrZen I am very sorry you went through that. Good thing, you are alive and here with us.
It’s truly wise what you said. We should accept the process, not fear it… maybe this acceptance also comes with time.
To me, you look younger than your actual age @anon61987434
You have very youthful face
I know, I am going through very similar thing… sometimes for me its even psychologically hard to take care after me. I feel like I am not worthy of good self care.
My pdoc said I am very hard on myself, and that I need to start loving myself… so sometimes self care is indeed connected with the way we feel about ourselves
I believe that. When I’m feeling down, it’s definitely harder to take care of myself… or to make sure I take the time to take care of myself.
Sorry you struggle with thinking you don’t deserve to take care of yourself
Two maybe three weeks ago I was on a bus to work… and I saw this girl, younger than me, without part of her face. Scars, and almost half of her face was missing. I believe she was either attacked or been in a car accident…
I don’t want to go into details; but the way she looked, the sadness in her eyes were very truly big. I still think about this girl.
In my country, where people are a bit overwhelmed about each other looks her life probably is harder than it would be in other countries.
Idk there is one quite nice thing to do to start loving yourself a bit more. ^^
Pick a picture from your childhood and place it somewhere in your room where it will be seen.
Look at that pic and be grateful for yourself. Say good words to yourself while looking in the mirror, or at that your childhood picture. We are not as harsh to children as we are to adults… that’s why it works
I try to accurately describe to myself how i look, and probably it’s somewhere between 26-28.
big thanks to you 
