My mom just got a house. It’s perfect for two as it has two bedrooms a living room and a den(so two living spaces). My mom and I get along great and we’ve suggested me maybe moving in. It’s just an idea for now. I’m currently on hud and have had my own place since 2011. I like the idea of not living in an apartment,(I could play the drums again), and it’s in a nicer neighborhood. I’m seriously considering it if we agree. I do love the freedom of having my own place like I have now. I’m also 39. Is it weird to live with your parents? Living with her never bothered me, and she’s getting older so I could help her as she ages. Also the rent I pay would go to her. Would you give up having your own place?
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I live with family but keep to myself most of the time, except for when my mom and I go out to see movies together on our passes.
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I live with my Mom and I’m 32
IDk, there’s so many different lifestyles in America that living with your parents doesn’t seem that weird. Young people in their twenties are living with their parents longer for example. I mean if that’s what you want do you shouldn’t let anyone stop you.
Giving up the freedom of living alone is another matter. I rented rooms in peoples houses and lived with roommates for years. It’s hard sometimes living with other people and I value the peace and freedom of living alone now. You know the perks of living alone (I assume you live alone now). You can eat what you want to whenever you want to, you can come and go as you please and don’t have to tell anyone where you’re going or what time you’ll be home. You can watch whatever you want on TV or listen to the radio all day on the station you want.
My last roommate was a slob and wanted to store weird stuff in the living room. Now that I live alone I can set up my studio exactly how I like it and keep it clean. I can stay up all night if I want without disturbing a roommate.And I don’t have to get along with anybody else in close quarters. If you’re cool with giving all that up then move in with your mom.
There’s plus sides to living with your mom. You’ll always have company and someone to sit down to eat with, someone to talk to and socialize with. I lived with my sister when I was in my late thirties, it didn’t seem weird, it was a good arrangement and I got to hang out with her and her friends and go places with them. I mean who’s going to really care that you live with your mom? If you move in and feel a great need to explain yourself if by some chance someone questions you have a perfectly legitimate answer to them: the truth. Your mom bought a house with a spare bedroom and since you’re family you agreed to move in and live with her. Nothing weird about that.
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I got back from a failed attempt at living in America in 2004. I made it a priority to pay back my parents from my adventures so just moved in and did that. It’s a no brainer for me and we pooled our resources and lived great lives……
Yeah it’s different here because it’s a small house so like you can’t bring girls back but that was no problem as I’m over it mostly so it works well if you can make it…..
Now. Dad has had some health issues and I’m a carer now and I love it because it’s the right thing to do for me. I think I’ve paid back all the money but I still live a great life and I look after dad. It’s not a bad thing……
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I lived with my parents for a very long time. I thought it was nice most of the time. I had a nice place to live, it didn’t cost anything and there was always family around. I kept to myself. I live alone with my cat now and kind of miss living with them. There was more privacy and less people around.
In my culture its frowned upon to not live with your parents, I know I live in the UK and I would rather not live with my mum but right now I have no choice.
I have lived alone for ten years
Would not be able to go back
Questionable if I could ever share my space with a partner
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I lived with both my parents till I was 21. With just my father till I was 24. Then had the longest but last time as an inpatient. I lived with my wife from 1983-2005. She developed vascular dementia in 2002/3 and died i 2005. 2005- 2017 I lived on my own hardly seeing anyone. Became increasingly self neglectful. My daughter made several attempts to get me to move near her. Eventually I agreed 2016/2017. I’ve lived independently, but not without quite a lot of support 2017-. My daughter has done a social services carers assessment. Power of attorney was done a couple of years ago.
Since falls in Oct 2021 I’ve been flat bound. I’ve not been outside on my own. Without the support I get I’d be in a very bad situation.
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I don’t judge adult children and parents living together, and muti generational houses at all. No one I know would either.
My mom wants me to move in with her if my dad passed before her. I am very willing to do this.
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Not at all. I’m sure some people would judge, but that’s societies’ problem, not yours.
Personally, I don’t think I would because I’ve grown too close with my freedom and space.
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I lived with my parents since I was born until they both passed away. I wouldn’t have done it any different. They were great companions and role models for me. I was praised by all my family for taking care of them and very respected. When they got crippled. Since my parents have passed, they’ve left me very well to do for the rest of my life. I’ll never be able to honor them as much as I should and they deserve. But I will continue to try to honor them. I couldn’t have had better parents and a better life. May God bless my parents forever.
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I can’t live alone the voices won’t let me 
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its not weird to live with your parents if your financially unable. but if you can id say live on your own. it gives you more freedom and independence. I mean for example what if your girlfriend or something wants to come over? Nothing wrong with living with your parents but if i had the choice id definately live on my own. As much as parents love us i think they also want to be alone too.
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There is nothing wrong with living with your parents.
I moved in with my parents after my divorce.
I was forever grateful
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Sometimes I feel trapped with my home
I could not stop working
If I mess it up I would never be able to have my own home with mortgage ever again
It’s a lot of pressure but work is going well so should be alright
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I don’t think it’s weird. But I do hope there’s a way for you to live on your own again once She passes. Do you have the means to get your own place again if you give up the current one?
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I’m 34 and live with my folks. Even if I could afford my own place I wouldn’t be in a rush to move. Isolation doesn’t do too well with me.
I’d ask yourself a question. “Am I hesitant because people might think it’s weird, or am I hesitant because I value having my own space?”
If you’re hesitant because you value you’re own space that would be a good sign to not move in. If it’s because you’re worried others think it’s weird, I’d reflect on that and consider moving in.
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I lived with my parents until I was 36 and then I decided to leave Florida for Alaska. I’ve been living on my own now for 17 years. I wouldn’t mind living with my parents again but I don’t think I could do it after having all the freedoms that develop from being alone. I also don’t think my parents would WANT me to live with them now, as they have their own lives and habits.
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Taking care of each other is what family should do. You are helping each other and that’s good.
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