What state should I live in and live alone or not alone and get a job or no job work at home or don’t work at home?can I still get free money for meds and a good diet?
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If you are female, I STRONGLY urge you to REALLY get to know ANY area before you move there. You REALLY need to know someone before you move ANYWHERE alone any more. Some cities are just too aggressive to schizo women alone & it could really be dangerous for you…Some of the smaller cities/towns are shockingly WORSE than large cities because the cops let the dirty businessmen call the shots & women who moved there to work were aggressively pursued by the wrong men in town & ruined to get a relationship for the wrong people. You ALMOST need to know someone ANYWHERE you move to know what goes on in town, which employers screw up their employees and which apartment complexes or landlords will not get you into trouble, which mental care providers are harmful. Some places have SO MANY SCAMS RUNNING, it you can get scammed 5-6 times and fired, screwed at your apartment complex, school, bad mental care…some whole cities or towns are a trap. Sometimes, the whole place is so much trouble for new comers, even smaller communities, then men are not staying. I STRONGLY urge you to have enough money saved up to leave any living situation in case the situation gets threatening or you get screwed/fired…Even the big fat ladies are being pursued by predator men who are screwing up the employment of new ladies who moved to town alone to work in order to get themselves a relationship.
If you just pick someone and leave town with a newer relationship, you may find out later the man is a wife beater. This is happening A LOT lately as pay gets lower and lower. The men end up being so schizo they will beat a baby to death. Mothers are ending up in jail if they cannot get away from a man who latched on & he turned out to be so violent he would hurt kids…So many people don’t know how they can punish a child, they go crazy upset on a kid and end up not knowing their strength & harm kid.
I can tell you where to avoid moving. California is SO expensive, 98% of people need government assistance to afford to live there. This makes these people almost slaves to the wealthy ones who will pick off anyone they want to use. The govt in California had no interest in protecting the poor people and women were regularly victimized for working for someone wealthy & ruined…
Colorado surprisingly horribly crazy place for women to live in some places. A friend lived there years ago & said it was like a gay bar, there were NEVER any women alone EVER in social situations. He checked & some of the women found the discrimination & social harassment of younger females to be so bad, the single ones left the state. I can report, things have not changed much … CO doesn’t always easily accept a working class women who is alone without seeing a piece of meat & you may even be harassed at your employment to get a relationship…Place is shocking to look at for more than a week in some places, even the men were leaving unless they wanted to try being gay. There just were not any single women…
Kansas, some of the churches turned against anyone who got mental care. You will be harassed so badly in some places, the churches nuts will get you in trouble at work. Kansas is bad business decision as the workforce is so disturbed, some of the church nuts are running businesses into bankruptcy with employee misconduct. If you don’t know anyone in Kansas, do not try to move there…The scams will ruin new people within 6 months if you are alone. Some of the cities have social situations hunted by predators to find new sex relationships and threaten to ruin/fire women who don’t comply with demands. Churches can run same way…rumor has it, some people needed restraining order to leave some of the Kansas churches. I would NEVER give out my name or employer information when I looked at a church where you knew no one as the zealots will hunt for you at work & even try to recruit you at your house…I would only go to a church where I knew several people really well…It is causing some people to move away after meeting nuts at a church who wouldn’t leave them alone.
If you try any move, you need to keep enough money to leave the situation if you get threatened or fired, several people who know where you moved and another place to stay.
I was actually pleased to be able to move after staying in same place for 35 years & just knowing goings on in my own in my local city/suburb as place is going down the toilet & work situations increasingly will not support a single adult and scams/sexual harassments ruin more and more employees…Something can be wrong ANYWHERE. You may be shown a lot of social problems/people who act wrong when you first move so you know who hears the voices too, then things sometimes calm down if you chose a good place to work. If things get worse, such as harassed by gangs of people in threatening manner, do not answer & consider a move as soon as you are able. If mental care is bad such as DR who insits on therapy but makes threats towards you& social problems get worse, or DR starts to talk about false memories, this is very bad sign the mental care where you are staying will be very dangerous to your functioning & you may want to consider other options.
Check out the ‘balance of things’ when you move & try to ignore the negative stuff if you want to stay, it results in better behavior from strangers. Some places are VERY hostile to someone on disability check as so many people in a city caught mental problems sometimes, they HATE anyone who gets a free ride because they have NO HELP AT ALL LOCALLY. I would NEVER discuss source of my $$$ except with landlord or it could get you tortured. It’s better to NEVER show any symptoms in public and do not make any noise aloud when alone or some places will TORTURE you & it can even be unsafe.
If you do not know it, some of the colleges will actually let their staff mistreat some students & ignore other students ganging up on some people. If you get student loans there, you will have to repay the money immediately if you drop because the staff is unprofessional or the classes are so out of date it is useless. I STRONGLY recommend you take 2-3 classes and pay cash before you try student loans ANYWHERE or it could be big mistake. Make sure the place will work for you before you commit to debt. It can be really good idea to get online degree if you don’t have a piece of paper (degree) and never set foot on campus as some of the on-campus living situations seem to worsen symptoms or start psychotic episode being around some of the messed up people, stress, unprofessional staff & alcohol. Can be better proposition to get studio apartment & work on degree part-time.
Craigslist has some outstanding jobs in some communities plus odd jobs, lots of scams in others. Real employers never want personal information before an interview, some online jobs never ask. Know the work rules for SSDI/SSI. I would NEVER earn more than $700 on SSDI until you are ready to work full-time or you risk losing your benefits or health insurance. SSI is totally different and you need advice of case worker to make good decisions here. NEVER disclose a diagnosis EVER, just any changes needed to job duties to do the job called ‘accommodations’. Can be limit to number of hours so you don’t get too much income, same hours all the time, not work with the public much, work from home…
Lastly, A LOT OF PEOPLE DO NOT ACT RIGHT IN SOME COMMUNITIES CALLED GANG STALKING/THOUGHT BROADCASTING. Mental care will NEVER give any advice to help you through while the other consumers are only source of good advice to deal with these part-time psychotics who choose to mistreat people if voices demand it. Some communities have LOTS who will do this and whole churches told they hear God & go out and bother people on disability or psych medications. This is short coming of mental care and you can NEVER get angry with mental care or you could be locked up for months in mental hospital at your own expense, always causing loss of employment and sometimes homelessness… Sometimes communities have a lot of weirdo stuff done to mental health consumers. It causes more problems to keep any money or good electronics in your house or car. You will be bothered worse plus causes more trouble when moving. Also, never leave your glasses in your housing. This is favorite to bust in some places so always keep glasses on you when you leave the house. If you ever suspect a trespasser, this is just how stuff works and filing a police report if there is nothing stolen could get you a forced mental hospitalization in lots of communities. If the trespassing gets too bad, many shack up with a relationship, dump a lot of their possessions or call it quits as the community is just too expensive for single person alone to survive it…
We were told years ago in school, the stupid people are all over the country. Only difference in communities is the employment. Some of the churches promote a hate-monger mentality about mental illness, especially welfare for disability…Urban areas can be dangerous if psychotic but small towns can actually be worse as the local cops sometimes don’t give a crap about anyone & let anything happen (short of homicides) and no one in the community will eved do anything for another person except breath a sigh of relief someone else is handling the town thug, drunk, wife beater, pedophile, meth man or dirty businessman. Never answer if anyone is rude to you or acts crazy, just see what is discussed about the town in your presence by locals and decide if you want to deal with it, be able to leave.
Hope it helps. Sorry so long. Good luck. I’m gonna try moving again soon. I may even do a little RV & just move around, working temporary/contracts until I find the good people again. (Nice option if handled right as small business with EIN number from IRS.) My local community went so stupid over religious zealots, the former good employees here (especially men) went nuts and will screw over people now… We were told this happens also, so you do need to excuse the Christians and consider some lost if they fall into the extreme religions that would result in harassment & sometimes inability for you to even work. Some just try to not discuss religion amongst friends but sometimes these churches are testing their people on what they will do to another person, kind of psychopathic training even demanding harassing their own mentally ill spouses and testing their family’s generosity. It is only possible to consider some of them a lost nut case & do not even bother communicating with them again as the church drove them nutty and it will harm you.
You should also know, at colleges you may need to file with disability support services as the staff with mistreat anyone else & this is only protection against discrimination, sexual harassment, harassment by students, distractions in classroom/testing and ability to get alternative assignments if a group member called to work with you in a group assignment is not cooperative plus ability to ask dean for clarification if professor deviates from syllabus. You will find out if the mental care is not alright if you move somewhere and new psych doctor will not assist with note for disability support services. You MUST get your former psych doctor to fill out the paperwork usually provided by the college so you can be protected from discrimination … This is really good way to see if your city is going to be toxic or supportive to fully functioning adults who act okay…
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If you really can pick any state you want to live in, pick a
state you feel safe in. You may want to do some research before up and moving
blindly into a new town/city/state. @Stillperkin is right crime is a problem
everywhere these days. It’s harder for those of us with mental illnesses who
may not be able to defend ourselves in certain situations.
Choosing a roommate can be hard because you have to really
be able to trust them. They should be fully aware of any mental or health issue
you may have. Not everyone is equipped to handle living with someone who has
mental problems. IF you can I’d try and find a site to do some kind of background
story on someone.
While cities are more room to move around, and have better
access to health care small towns have their problems and limitations. Small
town you have everyone wanting to get into your business. You tell one person
(even in confidence) eventually it will come up and by the end of the week
everyone will know your whole story, even if you don’t’ want them to. Cities
are better, not everyone in the city cares, you could live next door to someone
for six years and not know a thing about them.
Also small towns generally have very poor health care. My best
friend lives in a small town just under 20,000 and they basically call their
hospital a band-aide hospital. If you go into a state and need medical help
would the town you choose be able to help you?
@Stillperkin mentioned the cost of living that is also
important to look at. So is weather. You may not think it’s a big deal, but my
friend who lives the small town, one winter I went up and stayed with her a
week or so and we got like 26 inches of snow in one night. My mom and back here
in St. Louis barely got an inch. Snow’s not the only problem; I have horrible
allergies in the spring time here in St. Louis. I do like living in a city
because if something were to happen like a power-outage we’d get power back on
quicker than if in a small town…this is important if you have medications that
have to be kept at a certain temperature.
Now if you chose to stay in an assisted living place, do your research, look the place up on-line. Look to find how tenants are treated
before signing anything. Best of luck and stay safe.
I’ve learned there’s no such thing as free. I do get Social Security, and that helps to an extent. But I don’t know about other assistance. you’d have to look into that with each state is different with assistance. I think small towns might be harder as well. I don’t know., but you can go on-line and look information up. Just don’t do something on the spur of the moment make sure you have all the information you can get.
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To put it in perspective, some of the people who got involved in non-denominational or pentacostal churches, but could be any kind of Christian church started to screw up, steal and mooch of someone on the check including taking person out for their birthday when poor and abandoning them with the bill for the restaurant. You could not even socialize with some of these church converts as they were newly trained to be a hostile who would screw over former friends, family and coworkers. It’s a nut you needed to forgive, forget and avoid whatever church the person was using. Most of the other parishioners will be hostile toward you too if you EVER discuss much with this former friend again. It can affect employment as these gossip all over town about some & information is meant to be harmful.