I hardly see anyone. I hardly do anything. I have little or nothing to talk about on a social level. It makes it hard to fully integrate and leaves me at a distance.
Social interaction difficulties breed social isolation breed a life of virtual nothingness, resulting in an ever increasing distancing from others in terms of engaging even online with others on a social level.
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hi firemonkey, I hope you can find a community where you feel less isolated. Some cities and towns have clubhouses for people with mental illness, I found visiting them sometimes to help a lot when the isolation of the disease got to be too much. I also spend a lot of time on irc chat to help me get through the day.
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I know how you feel. I have no friends and never socialise. I just have these forums. Thank God for the internet. It would be a lonely world otherwise.
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Little chance of that here the 3 ‘drop ins’ in the area and surrounding area are (a) weekly affairs only (b) outside of my comfort zone and (c)2 are church run which puts me off as on a visit to one with a mental health charity they had us singing a hymn and the average of the regulars was well over 70. (d) the 3rd you can only attend for the time limited period that you are on the books of the mental health charity that runs it.
There is nothing that ticks the boxes ie (a)near to home and easy for me to get to (b) that you can drop in on a daily basis if you want to (c) are not church run or time limited.
Without forums I would watch much more tv and sleep more.
Sorry about that. Even just going for a walk can help me feel less isolated sometimes, unless my meds are not working and I’m hearing voices. Or if I’m living in the middle of nowhere at the time and there is nothing but desolation for miles. Then a walk really doesn’t work as well. But sometimes it does.
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Christmas wish- For a drop in that is (a)near to home and easy for me to get to (b) that you can drop in on a daily basis if you want to © is not church run or time limited. Another week of 99% plus social isolation but hey I’m not a nuisance to society so mental health services don’t give a ■■■■!
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That doesn’t work for me. I see so many people together and it rams home my isolation.
I know what you mean, that can be tough. I’ve got a walking trail these days that seems to take me along a fairly quiet route where people are walking their dogs. I don’t like crowds especially, too much going on.
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Hey, I hope you can find some company well before Christmas. Holidays can be especially hard alone.
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it is easy to describe my social life…i do not… have any friends,i do not socialize,except for this web site…which i am so grateful for it and the people on here…grace
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I have my significant other, and my problems and ■■■■■■■■…so that’s about it. ANd friends and family 45 minutes away. Which did change things for us…
We have this huge house to have friends, but no one ever comes…it’s kind of depressing…truthfully…
have you ever heard of befrienders? they are people that you can get to know for a bit of company and you get matched up an that, i had one in the early years
I had a befriender who stayed seeing me for a while after the mental health charity running it was forced to close the service. Unfortunately though he moved to another county to be with his girlfriend while she did a uni course.
can’t you ask for another one?
Sorry firemonkey it’s really hard to get support in some places. Hopefully you get better support soon.
An option can be visiting a church If you are following a religion…I mean I have heard that on Sundays many people come to church and it can be a good gathering after the prayers.
Another option can be joining a volunteer work. Do it for a few hours in a week but you’ll find many nice people there.
No, because, as explained in my last post, the service was closed down. The local branch of Rethink that ran it was told ‘Make economies and restructure or we’ll stop funding’ by the local authority and mental health trust . Result the befriending service and drop ins were slashed and a pared down, time limited service was introduced.
It was incontrovertible proof that the local authority and mental health trust don’t give a rat’s arse about those who are socially isolated .
I have looked occasionally at the do it site(UK) but have yet to find anything that requires minimal practical skills and minimal face to face interaction, is near to home, and would be sufficiently stress free.
If I could find something suitable with minimal expectations/pressure where I could do something low key but useful……
Had another look for things near to home, ie within 1 mile . 192 listed but nothing remotely suitable .