I got in trouble yet again at my volunteer job today. This time, with a nursing home resident. It even put me in tears when I got home.
I was visiting with this one old lady and she complained that I had been visiting with her for over 20 minutes and wondered why I had not visited with anyone else. I told her that I had indeed visited with other people besides her and had visited with a total of seven residents so far. She told me that she hadn’t seen me in any other hallways and she doubted what I said. I told her that I had been in all the hallways. I then told her that I didn’t have to visit with her anymore if she didn’t want me to.
She then got angry and told me that she didn’t say that and that she was going to complain about me. I told her that I didn’t mean to insult her and that that was not my intent. She told me that she didn’t care and she was still going to speak with my superior.
I spoke with my boss and told her I quit and told her why. My boss wouldn’t let me quit and she said I didn’t have to go back to that nursing home anymore and that she would find another job for me.
It sounds like her problem, not yours. You didn’t do anything wrong from what I read. Don’t give up a job you love (I think you said you did in the past) because of one person. Maybe she was just having an off day, we all get those.
Don’t beat yourself up. Think of all the positive contributions you’ve made up til now. They far outweigh one bad encounter.
I’m sorry you had to have that unpleasant situation. Definitely not your fault.
Very nice that your boss is encouraging and that you can continue! Obviously she sees how well you are doing!
Years ago I visited a lady in her 100s. Her dad was 80 and her mom 20 when they got married, and she was their child a year later. She said her dad owned slaves. She was very racist and I was humiliated so many times when she would say N this and N that. And it was in front of her black nurses. I told them I was a minister and she was a member of the congregation and I visited her in that capacity, but that I in no way agreed with her. After a year, I couldn’t take it anymore and told the pastor I couldn’t visit her anymore. It showed me I still had work to do in forgiveness and loving all people. It’s something I still try to work on.
I wouldve just bounced and said enjoy the rest of your life. And then never visit that person again unless they force me.
Sounds like an old grouchy bag lol
Never mind that. She was totally wrong. It seems that she has issues and you will never know what is going on with her. Just ignore her and anyone like that. It happened with me a lot in the past but it was from collegues and I was suffering a lot. I would advise you to focus on yourself, your future, your career and your family. Put anything else in behind you and move on.
Some people get crankier when they get old. Her behavior was probably caused by elderly dementia. Try not to get down on yourself. You didn’t deserve it.