Is it ok to have no friends?

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I have 3 friends but I don’t want friends anymore. It’s too much for me to handle.

Thought about ending my life tonight. Took prn instead.

Is it ok to have no friends? I’ll feel shitty either way I suppose. Either too anxious or too depressed on top of the sz. Pick a poison, I suppose, right???

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i think we should have a few consistent friends atleast. no man is an island. we need friends. its gotta be give and take in life. we cant do it on our own. we all, mentally healthy or not, need a support system

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You need to learn to be comfortable in your own skin.

People crave company cos they cant handle being alone - hence you get the posts on here from desperates moaning cos they have not got the result they wanted from some poxy online dating site.

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Sorry bit harsh.

Only date when your happy being alone first. Or it only creates trust and jealousy issues. usually down to our lack of self esteem.

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I only have 2 IRL (in real life) friends.

Wish I had like 5 to 10, at the most.

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Yes that’s absolutely fine mate. There is no law saying you hae to have some. People want mates to fulfil there own insecurity’s usually.

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I have no friends IRL. I’ve had less than a handful of friends in the 67 years I’ve been alive.I’ve made several attempts at socialising more, as that is seen as a significant part of the recovery process. All have been varying degrees of failure. I don’t come across well in real life situations. Comparatively speaking I do better online, but in terms of how much I’m liked or would be missed I’m still rather low down on the totem pole.

Very few people look beyond my undoubted personal flaws. Flaws we all have in some way or other. I have some vague memory of reading that first impressions matter. How you present yourself to others. I fail miserably on that score. I just do relatively better online than IRL.

There is one group of people that don’t see my social ineptitude as a deal breaker. For whatever reason they ask to be friends. I very rarely send a friendship request. Too scared of rejection.

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I’ll take social anxiety while going out with friends over loneliness, any day.
Fortunately, my small circle of friends have all been acquainted with my illness and they are still sticking around. Therefore I usually feel comfortable in their presence.

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i havent had an offline friend in real life since around the end of 2010. its alright for me

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I think you should like the friends you have and there is mutual obligation to companionship. I have minimal friends right now and I am content… I want friends but with similar goals and it’s gotta be by my terms now! Sadly no one really stands out to me as friend worthy… maybe I have a high expectation, but I feel I’ve been let down! Hence my stance….

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I have gotten used to not having any

Felt bad about it for a while, but over it now

The bar to gain my trust is not easily accessible to other people

Not saying all my old friends were bad, but I used to misplace loyalty in completely the wrong people

I take most of the responsibility for this. Should have been able to see that these friendships had turned or were always toxic ones

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Thanks so much guys for your words.

What happened was I was with my friends hanging out and had voices telling me I don’t fit in and no one wants to talk to me.

That made me become even more silent and stupid looking.

So I left sorta abruptly and it made me feel awful about my life.

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its more important to have a reason to get up every day

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I have zero friends

I have a sister spouse and niece nephews.

I only text my spouse and phone my spouse and MH team

I am okay with this.

I have social interactions with his friends when we have to visit or his friends visit.

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I have one real life friend and his name is Don Juan :cat::tiger:. And my parents I guess

Ok fine I met some friends in AA but now I’m not going but still text a little so they’ve transitioned to phone friends :joy:

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Like @firemonkey, I’ve had less than a handful of friends in the 64 years that I’ve been alive. I have three IRL friends today. And two of those are questionable. And I’m suspicious of the third.

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What a wonderful friend you have! I wish I could have a kitty friend!

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I have one IRL friend. It’s so sad, really

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