It is not normal in my country, I live in Argentina (south America) and that is punished by law. But there are a lot of parents here who do so, a lot, and their children grow up with fear, those parents who treat their children with respect often see their children as co-operative and functional adults when they grow up.
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Spanking yes when I was a child ,but head bashed against a wall- no!
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What’s wrong with the parents in this world? I thought it wasn’t normal to hit children but seems like many parents do it. They rely in brute violence than intelligence and respect to deal with their children
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I only got one light spanking once from my dad basically because my mom told him to do it for something I didn’t even do. My mom used to slap me and my siblings across the face a lot over the most trivial ■■■■■■■■ and really hard too and was constantly screaming at the top of her lungs over random trivial ■■■■■■■■. Then she would lie about it and even to this day no one believes that she used to hit me and my siblings when we were small kids except for me and my siblings. I remember her screaming at us not to call child protective services one day and then threatening to put us up for adoption the next. I don’t understand how someone like my dad who is so kind and forgiving and understanding could ever end up with someone like my mother. I struggle to forgive my mother every single day and it’s made harder by the fact that she doesn’t feel a drop of remorse about any of it
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Oh…this is a controversial subject. Where I am from it’s illegal to use violence on anyone. And rightly so. Violence should never be an option. It degrades you as a human being. I could not condone any act of violence. Words are a much better way of resolving issues, even with the most stubborn people.
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When I was a young boy, my Dad cuffed me ONCE on the back of the neck. I told him…
“One day I’m going to be bigger than you, and beat YOU up!”
He never laid a glove on me after that.
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I got one spanking and my dad felt so awful about it he never did it again. I can’t even imagine being hit. I’m sorry that happened to you. That is just not right at all.
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Hitting is still considered normal:
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Disgraceful. It should be illegal to physically assault kids. Is any wonder that there are so many sociopaths in our world?
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Yeah, my dad used to hit us over every little thing. Once, I got the belt because I accidentally spilled some milk. Another time I got hit (not with a belt though) for throwing up in the hallway when I was like 6. My grandpa and dad used to hit us with switches. I got hit for watching that old channel Noggin if you remember it, because I was supposed to be watching more “mature” shows.
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I’m against spanking/hitting, but I wanted to show that it’s something that still exists. Parents do it, even schools do it.
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I only got spanked a few times and a couple of ear yanks. Nothing too terrible.
Hitting children has a ton of adverse effects according to the research and it’s usually done in the heat of the moment. There are better ways to discipline.
Positive punishment is shown to be the least effective of all the conditioning techniques.
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Yeah, you said it yourself @anon80629714. Different rules or morals for different cultures. Here in the U.S it still happens but corporal punishment has fallen out of favor for kids.
Reminds me of when I took a course in ethics in college. The instructor posed a real life scenario happening in the present time like today. The situation that is similar to this is what it is; You are an adult and you are walking down the street and you come upon two old men beating a teenager with sticks in the middle of the street. Any normal adult would look at it as those two old man are assaulting the kid and an adult would probably think it’s a crime and intervene. But actually it’s a foreign country and the two adults are just following their culture and the beating is a rite-of-passage inniating the youth into adulthood and making him a man. The instructor’s basic point is that situations are cultural and perspective and that morals are different around the world. So in the U.K. if your parents beat you it is actually a good thing, lol. Sorry, just a tasteless joke.
And by the way, when I was growing up, if we did something wrong that was worse than usual like getting caught stealing or if I hit my sister and made her cry etc. we got hit across the bare bottom several times with my dads belt. Sometimes it was a yardstick. I mean it hurt pretty bad and it was scary because if we got caught during the day my mom would say that we were going to get hit when my dad got home so we were in terror the rest of the day anticipating what is going to happen. But it was funny because this was like 45 years ago when spanking your kids was more reaccepted and it really wasn’t a big deal. It hurt for a while, us kids knew we did something bad and it didn’t “emotionally scar” us or traumatize us. But when I grew up and spanking became child abuse I used to try to make my mom feel guilty about spanking us and made her feel bad, lol.
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My mom used to hit us when we misbehaved but it wasn’t all the time.
But this was during the 1970s when it was more acceptable for parents to use physical punishment.
This would not go so well today.
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My parents never hit me when I was a single. Not even once. And I think I turned out fine
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