i did not know telling other people how i solve my own problems was self centered?(i do that too). if people imply they have a problem or want advice, then what else might i say? or what would you say instead of doing what we have been doing and saying? this is something i also do not under stand. sometimes i have the feeling i am being an insensitive clodd because i just sit saying “yup. uh-huh”. then some people say we/i should have have more sympathy or empathy . that would requiring relating to that person, wouldn’t it? how else would i relate and help them and show them i understand with out telling my story about a certain problem simular to theirs? it is not that i am focusing on myself. I am not starting the sentance with a “well think about me, or others when…” . Myself or others having a problem does not make that persons problem go away. i know that. i am trying to act as a springboard for ideas for that person. sometimes the other person may take it the wrong way though. maybe i should make my intent clear before i say anything? there was a time, when i knew this one guy, when ever he did not want to hear anything from anyone he would always say" Think about me… you think you got problems. well i …" . After talking to him, or someone like him, i think i would be overly sensitive to others trying to relate or help in the way that i do? maybe this is the problem? i dont know. just guessing.
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