I'm trying to figure out what's fair and what is not fair

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OK. I seldom get any “likes” on my negative posts but I just have to get this out of my system.
I’m sure many of you remember @anon40540444. We had a little friction between us about a year ago. I said some things I shouldn’t have said and he responded with things he probably shouldn’t
have said too. That’s the past. But he Pm’d me later and offered the olive branch and i accepted.

That’s all water under the bridge and we were cool after that and I have no ill will towards him now and vice-versa.

But I want to say something. Like I said, I bear him no ill will but I called him something I shouldn’t of that was rather insulting. He then responded with some insults that I would call “over-kill”. i tried to stick up for myself and I failed and I got piled on a little. One thing he said was that I “could dish it out but I can’t take it”.

And than Malvok joined in out of nowhere and added some insulting things of his own basically dismissing me rudely. Water under the bridge now. But here’s what I think. Correct me if I’m wrong. When I was growing up, my " friends" picked on me mercilessly. It was mostly verbally but it got physical sometimes. I did not deserve it and they went way over the line and ganged up on me and it got pretty bad. I had nothing to answer with which encouraged them to insult me even more.

Now, anyone saying I couldn’t take it seems wrong and unfair. I took it for years (of course there were lots of good times too) And dissing me for calling someone names is not right. Who has the moral high ground? Two people who gang up on someone and pile it on by by attacking some one who doesn’t defend themselves? This is nothing personal against Alien or Malvok.

But who is braver or who is right. I don’t exactly think I should get an award for taking sht . But in a weird way I deserve respect for putting up with sht for so many years and I think I have every right to say something every now and then without being accused of “not being able to take it”. We’re they right and brave for ganging up on someone when they knew they would win? I think in a weird way that I should be equal to anybody else as a human. So who is the better person, someone who attempts to stick up for themselves? Or the tormentors who shoot him down? What’s your take on this?

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Malvok was not in a good place at the time and appeared to be either partially relapsed or heading towards one. :frowning:

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Don’t know the ins and outs of what happened but I think everyone has the right to stick up for themselves. Just don’t expect the person you are arguing with to give you a hug afterwards.

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Sorry, Nick, I replied without taking proper note of the timeframe, and deleted my comment once I realized that it suffered from excessive Not Knowing WTH I’m Talking About.

I think you’re a champ, and I think people here have noted the way you handle yourself. I don’t think you need to worry about people judging you the loser of any particular encounter.

And I’d also say that none of us are here because we’re well, and to practice generosity and forgiveness in the face of our inevitable screwups is divine :two_hearts:

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I think one has every right to tear someone down if said person is doing the same to them. Pacifists never survived fights to the death, and all.

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I like your posts and take offense that you say I seldom do… just kidding :slight_smile:

It doesn’t matter who is braver or who is right. Let the past stay in the past. We all take ■■■■ from time to time. I think we all have had troubling pasts. You can’t let it hold you back or allow it to take up you mind time.

I like you and your posts. I try to take up for anyone that gets picked on because I have been there myself.

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