It’s just so hard for me. I have freinds who will do their best to listen, but i always feel like im jusy wasting time by making everyone else sad and uncomfortable too. Im also not sure how often is too much. I dont want to be a burden on anyone, but if i asked for help every time i felt lonely, sad, and hopless i would just be a bummer 24/7.
I feel that way too. Especially coming on here. I make a lot of comments as it is, no need to make it worse.
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never hesitate to ask for help
“It is not the man who asks not for help who is strong, but the man who can ask for help without feeling like he is burden.”
Sorry if you are a woman, but the quote still holds, that’s something my gramps told me when I was 12.
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Thanks for that. Im a man by the way. I feel like when people say, “we’ll always be here for you” most of them don’t really know what that means.
it can be hard, but you should never hesitate to ask, I have made that mistake so many time, and you know where it got me? the first time I almost starved to death, the second I was only saved when my dogs broke their dog run and came into the woods to stop me from taking my own life.
Being too afraid to ask for help is man’s greatest weakness, we have so much pride, or we are so afraid of inconveniencing others, that we stop thinking about what is healthy or right.
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You just have to find the someone like me in your life. There has to be that person, somewhere. I love venting back and forth with people, it’s so cathartic, and I also feel less guilty about my crabby bellyaching when someone is doing it with me.
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Im not sure if i have that person anywhere. I kind of just chose a few when i was feeling bad one day i asked some freinds i never really talked that way to before. I makes me feel bad that they might just be talking to me and saying its ok just to be polite not because anyone really cared.
Look for a person who betches a lot, about everything, but doesn’t seem actually very angry. That’s usually a sign of my people.
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I’ll show you anger.
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It’s okay to need something from others,
and most people are willing to listen, as long as it’s brief and improves your mood and theirs at the end.
A little special gift (doesn’t have to cost anything-flowers from your yard, favorite candy, errand run for them next time your out doing your own…anything) for the friend who listens helps ensure that you won’t become the “friend” that always takes and never gives.
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How’s that situation of yours @Teo?
Don’t be affraid to ask for help.
We are looking at a few places right now. We’re getting turned down left and right, but we found one spot a little farther out of the way if were willing to wait for it to be fixed up. Im not sure or not because i dont like the feeling if being too isolated, but besides that its actually quite peaceful. But untill it’s ready, we’re probably going to keep looking at places homeless for a few weeks.
My mom wants to go to Sandiego and stay with my grandma, but i cant stand cities. Unfortunately i have to go because Im my mom doesn’t want to take the train and im the only one with a license. If i can convince her to let me stay i would, but my mom has never really been good at listening.
On the bright side we sort of have a car now. It’s cheap and we need to get it fixes up a bit, but it was practically a gift from the rich side of the familly.
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Alright, keep us posted. Good luck my friend
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