My breakup happened more than 2 months ago… yet I still feel ■■■■■■. Idk why I still have dreams about that person. Last days it feels worse again,
It’s like overthinking about what could be, if I acted differently. Also; thoughts on how horrible as a girlfriend I was ((probably))
I know most of you definitely have bigger issues here than me, but it seems that person is not leaving my head. He left me, I know that oneday he could even try to contact me again…
Overall, it was not meant to be. We were tooo different as a people, we didn’t had a lot topics to discuss… 
though it still hurts. Hurts too, because on how naive I was. I believed in every word he said (even though it was not my first relationship).
So yeah… maybe someone wants to chat? 
Discuss this or something else? For some reason I feel very lonely
Lonely here as well. Today marks one month since my best friend passed from cancer and I am still feeling raw over the loss. Not able to chat much, however, as I’m just about to start work for the day.
Ohh… this is so sad. Sorry for your loss, @shutterbug
I know how much best friend can mean to us…
You’ll forget all about him when you find someone new.
Id say you’ll probably get over it. I wouldn’t worry whether or not you were a good girlfriend. It’s hard to find someone you get along with. I don’t have a lot of experience in relationships, but from the little I have I know not everyone is a good match. I’ve been hanging out with a few women and had to cut off from one. We were ok just as acquaintances, but once I was around her enough it was different. I’m hard to match with someone cause I’m kinda high functioning schizophrenic and most people I hang out with don’t live under the same set of rules that I was taught growing up.
Definitely truth: sadly, from all the boyfriends I had, this one seemed like a perfect match for me, atleast, in the beginning of relationship. First year… then it started going downhill, we started arguing more, I couldn’t understand his behavior sometimes.
I believe, what hurts me the most is the fact that he left me truly unexpectedly and in a unexplainable way. Like, it was not a first breakup but he always came back. Now it was veeeery different.
Or maybe I just didn’t noticed the subtle signs on that he is going to leave me sooner or later.
Yeah I’d say just give it some time. When this girl and I got in an argument and decided to break it up my symptoms flared up like crazy and I wasn’t even really close to her. I can’t imagine what would happen if I was with someone for a long time. Idk maybe people just start to get to the point to where you’re arguing and don’t get along as well. Idk why that would happen. If he left like that I’d say maybe he had put some thought into it. I’d say maybe a lot of people don’t communicate that it’s not working or that maybe they should have a break. They kinda keep it to themselves. Idk if that happened with your situation. Maybe he just feels different about relationships.
@TheSecondVariety sorry to hear that you feel awful after stopping talking with a girl… I can relate a lot. First weeks were really terrible for me.
Yeah he was very silent when we were arguing… most of the time he was not open on what he thinks or how he feels. It was like a mind game - I tried to guess how we feels or what he wants. Overall I knew him for a 3 years, but I couldn’t say I knew him. He was like a human chameleon (if you know what I mean).
My closest ones says he simply was not serious about me. Maybe he overall don’t want a wife or stable relationship at the moment. I am not sure, actually.
He said he will propose but it was a lie. Maybe I wasn’t right person to propose for in his eyes… I did really lots of mistakes when mentioning arguing. I was too harsh and sometimes I just wanted it to be like I want to be. Maybe I even was controlling (now I realise that)…
Yeah I’d say relationships are hard. You live and you learn. Idk if there is a good match for me or you or anyone really. Idk what a good match would be like. People find it though. Everyone I know that’s in a relationship has struggles. Three years is a long time in my eyes. Like I said I don’t have any real relationship experience. I really just want a girl that is kinda responsible in a way. I’m around a lot of mentally ill people and they all vary. The main thing I noticed is a lot of the people I hang out with aren’t as independent as I’d like. But that’s kinda a mental illness issue.
Yup you’re right… we live and we learn. Life is really difficult and annoying sometimes. But sometimes it’s beautiful, too. (Thankfully)
Wish you the best of luck on finding a responsible girl.
Thanks. Im the same way with friendships though. It’s not easy to find a match there either. I’ve hung out with a lot of people but I’ve only remained close to a few long term. I wouldn’t have been able to predict any of it. We just happen to get along well. They are usually the more independent ones too.
Yeah… relatable.
Only few friends left in a long term for me, too. Probably we simply cannot predict such things. And it’s very natural.
2 months is nothing.
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Sorry it ended. That’s 2 bad. Hope you will be okay. So you have an idea how to get over it?
I hope you will be okay especially if you love/d him
If you need a little private chat I’m in the pm section to talk 
@Zoe I will pm you at later evening if you want to!!
at the moment a bit busy but later ((if you can)) I will text u
Yeah, I believe I loved him.
And @dreamer54 is right, 2 months is a short time…
Hey yes I’m around, no worries if you change your mind but I’m here if you want a little chat. 
It sucks when your heart gets broken 
I’d say the best thing to do is get your mind off it
Ruminating is the worst thing we can do
Go out with your friends, get a new hobby, find faith, fill your time instead of having that void.
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