i was trained and taught to stay away from people who don’t act right or nicely to me.
now i am finding that some of those i tried to run from aren’t so easy to get away from.
i am feeling harrassed and bullied by them.
judy
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Some people are like that. I wish I knew an easy answer for you. With that type of person you have to get downright rude to them to get them to leave you alone. Then the person has a grudge against you. Maybe you could make friends with people who will keep the bad people off you.
If you feel bullied you have to stand up for yourself. That’s at least what I would do.
Have you tried going ‘grey rock’?
beep what is grey rock? judy
unfortunately, that’s life, gotta interact with people i dont like or i loose my job or become more of a social outcast
Gray rock is when you don’t respond to what people are doing with anything other than really bland, non-emotional responses. Basically, when someone says something that’s upsetting or mean, you just sort of shrug and go, “Oh, thanks for telling me,” or something in a really non-emotional voice.
The idea is that if you don’t give people more fuel for the fire, they’ll stop trying to provoke a response. If someone is looking for conflict or trying to hurt other people just to create drama and excitement, you don’t give them the emotional energy that they’re looking for, and they get bored and move on to someone who will give them the drama that they want.
Gray rock is easier for me with people who I don’t have much emotional investment in, because it’s a lot easier for me to detach from the situation and shrug it off. Much, much harder when dealing with people who I’ve had close relationships with and I was emotionally invested in. It’s super hard for me to not respond when I’m strongly emotionally invested in the situation.
Lol, yesterday I got caught up in an emotional response to a delusion of reference I was having and had to furiously journal about it for quite a while before I was able to pull myself back and calm down. Wish I could just gray rock my delusions.
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