Well I’m saying you’re awesome at them. 
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Well thank you monte…
Speaking of, I need to make a trip to the thrift store soon 
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Yw! 
Haha! That’s the spirit las! I scored a great pair of Levi’s at mine today. 
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Thanks everyone. I’ve been talking to my therapist twice a month. We work on self esteem sometimes. But she’s frustrated that I’m not magically better after talking it out. Hopefully I come to terms with myself and my abilities and disabilities soon.
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@LilyoftheValley im just reading this now and unfortunately i can relate. I struggle with self esteem often but all these comments are good to hear.
You are worthy of being loved
And your a good person which is great!
So don’t get down, go give your family some love and tell them how much you appreciate them
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I started using the computer in elementary school so it’s sort of natural. I lost a lot of abilities. I never really learned how to program.
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I guess IT is pretty complicated with automation and remote tasks and stuff like that. I never knew that stuff and they even have fields and degrees for those things. It’s crazy. I always used to look down on IT and now see it’s pretty amazing what they do for us.
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@LilyoftheValley - None of us are perfect. I think you have a lot to offer people. From seeing you post here through out the years, you seem like a great wife and a great mom.
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I hate art and creative things like painting and drawing and cermanics. I hate expressing myself through art and being social and open, thus I’m horrible at it. I used to draw with a pencil when I was a kid and did okay.
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You’re talking to your therapist and working on self esteem. I don’t understand what you don’t accept about yourself and sz? Youve had difficult life so can you not appreciate where you are now? Or are you unhappy currently with husband or friends?
You don’t have to reply im just trying to help
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It’s not specialization. It’s commitment.
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You are good at a lot.
You are a constant support to many people here.
One of the few people that know most members and can really help with personal situations.
You take care of your disabled husband while having disabilities yourself.
You’re even taking the care to go to therapy to improve your issues.
I really think you should journal.
Also do some affirmations.
You are loved by your family and a treasure to us here.
Don’t talk about yourself that way.
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@anon29983254 , I love my husband and friends but don’t feel worthy. I don’t feel like I offer anything to anyone even when I try because I personally am not enough.
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Thanks again everyone. I’m just struggling right now. But your kind words mean a lot.
In re affirmations I’m trying to find good things I actually believe about myself. I can say I try hard. So right now that’s an affirmation for me.
In re journaling - total paranoia about the men and/or others reading it so it doesn’t feel like a safe activity
There’s a lot of things I’m not good at. I know this. So I think about things I am good at and acknowledge it to myself. Self affirmation is very healthy. Practice it often in the mirror.
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Or maybe you’re just good at a lot of things… It’s good to not have any major things you can’t do. Sound alike you’re just a well balanced person. A lot of people who have super talents may not be as good at a lot of the other things you are overall.
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I feel the same. It’s like I can’t trust my own judgement. Instead I feel like I’m being judged and that I’m useless.
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Im glad you love your hubby and extended family and friends. You have so much to live for and enjoy. Ive kinda got my life within my limitations so i don’t see many people and keep a quiet life because thats all i can cope with. Hubby is everything to me i love him to bits. His health isn’t as bad as i thought because he’s had blood test and chest x-ray and nothings come out of them. He has spirometry soon to test for copd but he only coughs when he smokes and he smokes hardly anything.
Life really goes quickly and its precious. I am glad im still alive and i didn’t do anything irreversible to myself when ive been feeling down. Yay thank god for that. Im in a good place right now. Have a lovely weekend @LilyoftheValley
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It may sound strange my saying so, but I experience similar feelings. There’s a myriad of things I’m useless/next to useless at. My mild obsession with IQ tests stems from that. It’s one of the very few things I’m reasonably good at. Given personal factors it has very little real world value. I had piano lessons from 8-13. Was so inept I couldn’t even get the lowest grade. I was an OK singer, but age has lessened its quality. I’m a very limited cook. I struggle with those everyday practical tasks that many people take easily in their stride.
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I understand @firemonkey . And I get why you want validation from IQ tests. It’s great knowing you’re good at something.
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