I feel so crap that I can't have kids

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Thanks @Patrick that makes me feel a bit better.

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Thanku KYC. You are kind.

It’s cos I’m burdened with my mental health condition. And there’s a family history of more than 1 severe mental health condition in my family and extended family. On one side psychosis and on the other ocd. Depression on both.

I don’t know if it’s a good idea therefore.

Not just might the child get it, but I have it too. So it’s harder to look after the kid.

I also wanted to come off the medication one day but how can I do that risk if I have a kid, idk…

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Times are changing.

It’s not the 50’s anymore, where physical sex was all the rave.

People are turning to self-pleasure.

If U can’t have kids don’t be upset, lots of people are making the decision of not having kids.

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Thanks DNA. I appreciate that.

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Almost had kids when I was married
Thank goodness it didn’t materialize

My ex wife turned out to be abusive

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Careful what you wish for. Get to happen like a drop of water in a bucket. Certainly they’re all over you and all over everything. Their needs have to be met too. I raise the kid during the hardest time. To stepchild. One of my own. Is a couple of love Childs?I left along With their mom. It’s a miracle that we can raise them. Even normal people have trouble.

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Thanks for the advice DrZen. Yes that’s true, we all have problems.

And yes, I need to be careful.

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Well idk if we all have problems but I do believe that I guess no one knows everything, considering that the universe is infinite.

Then there’s a quote that goes

I know that I know nothing, even that I’m unsure of.

Quite cool.

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Hey Zoe I know a lot of girls on their late 20s to 30s that feel the need of having kids (I believe it’s a hormonal thing).

It’s good that your bf loves you no matter what.

Best wishes for you

:hugs:

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Thankuuuu :))) much appreciated lol

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Enjoy your free time. There are things that I took for granted when I was child free. Like hobbies. Being able to sleep and eat whenever I wanted and relax.

As mentioned. Lots of people these days do not have children. It does not mean your a failure.

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It’s great to have kids but it’s also great not having any. Try not to feel like you are selfish or feel inadequate somehow. You are perfect the way you are and having kids doesn’t give you more or less value as a person. Having kids is super stressful and you defo don’t need more stress in your life.

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Same here tbh xxxxxxx

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I probably won’t have kids because I’m too shy to ask a girl out. I want kids but my shyness is too extreme.

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Man, I’m sorry to hear this. Let’s see how time unfolds things might change our opinion. And if not, hopefully we can adapt to no kids

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Oh that’s sad. But why are u shy?

U seem great man.

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I’m afraid of embarrassing myself when I ask them out. If they don’t like me also I will feel like a fool.

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Aw okay. That’s tricky. Having a gf is a big thing for many ppl. Maybe u cud do with some therapy if its not too pricey. I don’t want u to miss out on something u want to have.

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Hopefully one day I will find that special someone. That is yet to be seen.

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I wanted to have kids with my ex, she didn’t want them, i really wish we had some :frowning:

I was watching a video about fostering recently & surrogacy, it was interesting

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