I feel I may want to break up with my boyfriend

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I feel like I want to break up with him.

He is affectionate, compliments me, best kisses and sex ever but he can also call me fat and gets furious for no reason and jealous.

The good is great but the bad is just not acceptable.

I don’t know when or how I can do this.

I don’t have sexual chemistry with many only had extatic sex with two men but through this I learnt that partnership stability is more important to me than extract sex.:open_mouth:

I miss my x and the best home I ever had and the girls but we were pretty platonic asexual with each other.

My boyfriend rented out his apartment and is homeless and expected to live at my place for free while he is cashing in over $500 a week.

He is living in his garage and my place although my land lady said no.

I feel his hell temper is not ok and he may have abusive tendencies.

This is so difficult.

I have to do it if not today in the near future.

I need someone who is more stable.

He is the opposite of stable.

He is bad to and for me I feel.

Since he became homeless he puts his ■■■■ on me .its not my responsibility.i didn’t rent his place out…

He is funny and makes me laugh and at first he seemed perfect in so many ways.so passionate, best sex and kisses so hot and makes me laugh but then came the hell temper , saying my stomach is fat when I’m in bikini or that my legs are fat and that he got furious for tiny things and if I gave him a gift he accused me of cheating.which I haven’t.

I can’t believe I want to break up but I feel he is ruining me and he is aggressive and I’m really gentle and it doesn’t go well with my personality.

He is ruining me if I don’t leave I will nolonger be me.

I was happy before I met him happier while we first were together but now I’m sick n unwell .

I feel he stops me from doing things I Norma did.

My x was worth more what we had stability partnership friendship it was worth more than laughter and hot sex.

Don’t know if I can do this or how.
He has such a temper.

He Might have been using me n could be jealous.

I don’t know how to do this or if I can do this but I have to.

Love him but he is too aggressive and un stable.

If/when we break up I will keep you updated.

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I got to “calls me fat”

Dump him.

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Just met him.

The words didn’t come out and then he left.

I think I will have to break up via text message.

Hopefully this weekend.

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I hear you @Truemist8. I’m rooting for you.

I had to break up with my (going on 16 years) gf too recently. When someone is just bad for you, you have to realize it and move on.

Don’t totally waste 16 years of your precious time and life with this guy like I did with this woman. I can’t get those years back and I’m getting old.

I wish you well. God bless you.

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God bless you too​:slightly_smiling_face::two_hearts:

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I think I might wait till he has driven me to the dr and to get my tongue pierced then I will suggest we just be friends but he has such a temper n is so aggressive we may not be able to be friends or even in peace depending on how he reacts.

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I would recommend not staying friends with someone like that :confused: especially not someone who has treated you poorly. You don’t need that in your life.

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Anger and violence isn’t cool.

My ex had a lot of anger in her and I hung around a lot longer than I should have. Love and attraction makes you forget the things that are danger signs…

Still. You get to a place and you don’t need that sort of behavior. I think that is a no brainer and it’s probably better to bail now than later…

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Living in fear is no way to live… if you speak to him and he doesn’t go or even if you are struggling to speak to him , GET SOMEONE INVOLVED TO GET HIM OUT …

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May??? It’s pretty clear that he is abusive. For one thing he’s either intimidating you or blackmailing you into letting him live with you. If he gets you kicked out what are you going to do for housing? For one thing, an eviction goes on your record and if you fill out an application to get an apartment they will ask if you have even been evicted and if so, for what reason. And when they see the reason it’s going to make you look very, very bad to them. I mean you could get kicked out of your apartment tomorrow and then what would you do?
I think you just got the wrong guy and you need to pick your boyfriends better next time.

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He is not making you feel good. That is enough reason to end it. I’m so happy for you that you are ending it.

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Stay strong. I know that’s hard. I had an awful 4 year relationship I couldn’t get out of but I finally had the courage to dump him.

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Good on you @FatMama :slight_smile: for the courage to do that

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you have learned that just the ultra sexy time will not complete a good relationship. So thats a good thing to learn in life.
best of luck on finding a good balanced partner, he will be out there.

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Thank you!:slightly_smiling_face:

Yes I have learnt a lot.

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Leaving him will be the best thing you can do for yourself

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You shouldn’t stay with anybody who calls you fat. That’s bullying. Also it makes zero sense because if he’s sleeping with you, he must be attracted to you, and therefore he’s making fun of his own preferences.

I had a neighbor who was plus size and her husband found her on a BBW dating site (big beautiful women).

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