Let me explain, yesterday I went to my pdoc to explain a topic about my social life. I told him that sometimes I talk too much to certain “friends” about personal matters, and they, who are bigmouths, gossip everything between them.
The problem is that when I say something personal, after a few days, someone from the group of friends gives me a hint about that same topic in the form of joke in bad taste. I get offended and I shut up.
MY pdoc says that they are self-references, and that I am a paranoid. But I’m confused. I think it’s normal and my only problem is to not know shut up and think before talk, and take everything too much to heart.
Every opinion is welcome.
Okay, I’ve seen him gossip about other people when they’re not in front of him. I just know that they are gossipers. There is the problem.
Also, they know my problem and treat me like a weirdo, they are not good friends. They are not really friends. And I think it has been difficult for me to understand it.
I think you need better friends.
Mine do this too, but i don’t think they understand how hurtful it can be.
I don’t mind jokes, but it often seems to be more malevolent than that.
I don’t know. i have the same problem. I can’t tell if i’m paranoid, or if they mean to hurt my feelings and betray my trust.
I do the best i can not to say personal things, or avoid those kind of people.
have you tried explaining to your “friends” how it makes you feel?
If it doesn’t help, i’d say move on.
You deserve better than that.
personal things should not be gossiped about.
I think it may be both. Maybe one time you noticed that a friend gossiped and you’ve grown paranoid since and with sz it’s hard to tell. Humans aren’t perfect though sometimes things slip out one way or another. People have intuition and can reason some things out.
That’s being said there’s a thin line between your own intuition that people are gossiping and paranoia. Paranoia I think is an over-active intuition that leads to false conclusions.
The best bet is to get medicated so that your mind can calm down, and then you’ll be able to see the difference more clearly, cause things are easier to control when they’re moving slowly-- like a bike or a car.