I accidentally made my daughter cry today :(

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She’s mentally I’ll and not working or going to school. While eating lunch today, I told her all the positive changes in my stepdaughter who is a teen. My stepdaughter now has a job, bought herself a car, and is putting money in savings to pay for her own insurance. She’s also behaving well finally too. So today, I told my daughter I’m proud of my stepdaughter. My daughter cried and told me how much it hurts to hear that because she’s not able to do anything. I feel so bad. Just awful. The good news is that by the end we were laughing together. Regardless, it was very insensitive of me and I feel terrible.

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I accidentally made my daughter cry a week or two ago too. We as moms feel bad. Now we are aware more of what hurts their feelings. I’m glad you both were laughing.

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Thanks @HollyHobby . I love my kids as I’m sure you do. It’s more painful for me when they’re hurt than when I’m hurt, you know? They’re my whole world. I hope I never make her cry again

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Yeah. I do love my twins. I always want them to feel loved by me.

I hope I don’t make mine cry again either.

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She needs to understand just because you are praising someone, it is no insult to the other. I’ve got five, so I understand the struggle for them to understand that concept is real.

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I totally feel the same. Twins? My mom is an identical twin

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Yeah. That’s true. I meant no insult at all. I’m proud of my daughter too but for other reasons.

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Right, there is plenty of praise to go around for everyone. She also probably feels extra about it because you are praising your stepdaughter, and not your daughter. There might be extra sensitivity about it. But just remind her that she’s loved, too, but don’t feel bad about praising your stepdaughter when she is doing the right thing.

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Good advice @anon55031185. I told my daughter what makes me proud of her so I hope that helps

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I feel bad about letting my parents down.
My brothers are successful at least.

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Are you the oldest brother

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Yes and thats even worse as I should be a good example. I was until sz hit.

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Not your fault
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Dont beat yourself up over it. Beuttful little ones, altho sensitive can be very forgiving.

Your babys willl know that its an absolute honour to have them x

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Thanks @Naarai 15

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I’ve felt that way because my mom says how proud she is of my brother but never me… I’m glad you told her you’re proud of her too

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Yeah @Twialine . I am proud of her. That’s why I didn’t realize I’d hurt her. I just didn’t think. But I’ll tell her more often now

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I’m glad, you’re a good parent for realizing your mistakes and correcting the behavior I’m proud of you

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Thanks so much @Twialine

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No problem @LilyoftheValley

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