My aunt is one of them. She told me that she was soooo deeply depressed and she did not take meds to get out of it and was obviously so proud of herself for that. She told me she’d involve herself in activities and divert her mind. I’m afraid I’m not that strong. I told her I need those meds. I’ve had a lot of that advice from relatives telling me to quit those meds.
Then it’s my uncle. He tells me I am depressed because of something in my life and in my past. So he prescribed me to listen to this CD from a life coach / hypnosis. Have you heard of a paul mckenna?
Anyway, I’ve had enough of people telling me to basically get myself out of depression like that. BECAUSE I CAN’T.
I’d like to punch them in the face, then laugh and say that I believe that I have just been cured with their help, but not sure, could I do it one more time just to be certain?
just tell them they will never understand and leave it at that. involving your self in activities just distracts you from what is still there. the depression will lift when it so chooses.
my roommate doesnt believe in a chemical imbalance yet he struggles with anxiety and depression so he self medicates with marijuana , alcohol , and recreationaly uses cocaine and mushrooms.
ive laughed in his face before because he takes all these drugs, yet ive been so manically high from my illness that nothing compares. recreational drugs are a total joke compared to that. and yes ive tried stuff and honestly just aint for me. although i still struggle to avoid alcohol as an escape method
hes very anti-medication, yeah like thats any different than taking meds…
some people lol
other people i just smile and say , you keep living your life…
With depression you can disclose to some people and it’s like oh I was deeply depressed but got over it. Some even go through a suicidal phase at one point in there life. Point is they just just don’t get that it can be a life long thing for some people.
One of my Uncles brought me a book Being happy by andrew matthews thinking that’s all I need. Anther one referred my illness and the period that brought me into mental health system as “when I went a little funny.”
My Dad was much the same until he was hospitalized and dx with PTSD. He was very much in denial that there was anything wrong me before that. Wish I could also say it brought us closer but far from it.
Everyone’s an expert so let nature take it’s course. Mostly people are also very happy to tell you what’s wrong with you. But will not say anything that’s actually going to help you change.
You are very much not alone on it.
Oh the cd while I remember. I’m presuming you mean subliminals. Generally they play music while you listen to them and while your asleep and you pick up the subliminal messages. Main reason I mentioned it was I have two. The comment from my tdoc was if I felt headaches and nausea and the likes while listening to it. Was to stop using it immediately.
Oh my gosh… you have one of those aunt’s too? Can you just hear it… ???
“You know what you should do?” “When this happened to me… I just perked up”
For the longest time… I’ve dreamed of the solution…
But in all seriousness… It’s hard but you have to either ignore them… smile… nod… disregard. Or let them know that you and she are different people and what worked her isn’t working for you.
You could also let them know that you have a doc… who went to school… who has a degree… that your treatment it between you and that doc.
But if she’s not the listening type… you might just have to throw out what she says and do what YOU need to feel better.
Wishing you the best. I do hope you feel better soon.
Aw they’re just trying to help. At least they’re offering you solutions and not just calling you a big baby, saying they have it worse and telling you to get over it, which is what my mom did when I told her about my depression.
I think that even though it can be irritating, just tell them thank you for the advice and move on. What works great for some individuals doesn’t work best for others. Depression has many, many causes. For someone with chemical depression they can find all the distractions they want, watch all the psychotherapy videos they want and it’s not going to do jack. Maybe for someone with stress induced depression, or trauma induced depression those things would be very helpful.
I would put them on IGNORE MODE - Every family has them, those that feel that they know better than you or the doctors.
If you find yourself wanting to be heard, or if you feel that there is no one you can confide in, maybe going to a support group could be a solution, or finding a good therapist might be a good idea.
It is important that you surround yourself around positive people, I try to ignore toxic people in my life, even if they are certain family members - this includes my brother and his wife, I limit my time with them
Other people can never understand. You can blow off distant relatives. But if you have to respond to one just say yea uh huh sure because they really don’t get it. If they are just congradulating themselves, try "wow you are really amazing. ". Then they just go away.
Parents may say things too because they don’t understand and it can be hurtful. Get them a book if they don’t have one already.
You’ll find know it alls in the work place too. Like we used to get so much done with less people and stuff like that. They tick everyone off so try not to take it personally.
I just try to thank them for concern and let them know I am following my doctor’s advice to the best of my ability. Picking a fight doesn’t make anything better and will certainly make things worse.
