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I live with a step nephew in the same house who is a retired social worker and who has a bipolar sister. Youād think with his social worker identity, he would be an ideal connection, but he doesnāt want to have anything to do with me. I think he is scared of me. Itās gotten to the point now where, when I meet him during the day, he wonāt even say hello to me. I think HEāS nuts. He stays in his room a lot, and doesnāt come out to be in the rest of the house at all. He takes meals in his room. With the way he avoids me, he makes me laugh.
its hard to make friends with this diseaseā¦
I donāt know if I would call it ālosingā because itās not a loss to me, I prefer having no friends.
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I think normal people are scared of schizophrenics
@SauceyMike im always scared to get close to people because i know i would have to tell them about it, unless they themselves suffered with mental illness. then id be open. 2 our of my 3 relationships were with people i met in mental hospitals lol
It is extremely hard to make friends with sz. I had some friends that stopped talking to me or started treating me differently when they found out I had sz. I guess they werenāt really truly friends. I do have a few friends that still get together but for the most part I think people are scared of me or donāt understand me. Even Some of my family members donāt understand my illness and back away from me. The more people become aware of mental illness such as sz and realize that it is a real thing people are facing and try to understand the side effects and behavior that comes along with this illness the better off we will be.
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My illness came rather recently but I believe that I have lost some friendships because of it. They refer to you as dangerous and distance themselves from you. Some people are understanding though. Most people donāt go out of their way to contact me so it is all dependent on your definition of friend.
@Jillybean11 im lucky that my best friend has sz too 
its hard to find people who are understanding of the illness
Yea I feel the same way
Some of the churches here, especially baptist flavors, have been telling their people they should stop talking to some of the people who heard the voices too long as some of theirs are psychotic sometimes and it may cause the voices to end for them if they break contact with you. Sadly, these folks can talk so much behind your back it may keep you from working. Really should know, some of these people are such gutless wonders, it may be very embarrassing for you later and your former friend may try to humiliate you as the church is full of manipulators.
We also have a large number of people in hate monger churches taught to preach stalk some people who ended up on the check after mental care and call these a thief. Returning to my hometown and using facebook to return to people I already knew were pretty okay, good amount of the men have cracked and would mess up their own mama and some of the families have joined the hate monger movement. I got attacked by multiple people introduced by a former āfriendā from school when I mentioned I had left the area because I had met the sex abuser group ā group of people called me crazy loudly. Really sucked as it was new group of people where I should be neutral and wanted to be involved in that location BUTā¦SOMETHING is just too wrong with this group. Some friendās husbands just turned into creepies or dim-wits get me attacked by this crap, I had to cut ties quietly by Unfriending on Facebookā¦
Went to church somewhere for 18 months to socialize a bit with okay people. Was humiliated in front of whole church group with no one speaking up to defend me and thrown out which I am told is called āmobbingā in some of the big non-denominational churches. These big churches are just devil worship networks in some places and forcing the people into doing unethical stuff to remain okay, try to leave and get threatened with harm to family or bank accounts cleaned out. These churches were usually thrown out of their denominations for wrong doing and just turn into a ābusiness networkā that gets so big it can control a lot of money in the community and screw you really good for speaking up in descent. Better these folks donāt even know your names but community will usually get so bad, these church kinds will take note of people in the community to screw with medical, govt tax issues, id theftā¦
The professional networking here will do BLACKBALL ceremonies on some who are trying to get into work again after mental care & break from work. You may be forced into staying on check and just work service job. You can be threatened for short jobs you did not list on resume because it did not work outā¦Can be VERY adventageous to work at 1099 contractor using a business name of your choosing and just work temporary jobs from Craigslist focusing on telecommute and next city over. You go to IRS site and get an EIN so you give out this number instead of SS#. You need to check into quarterly estimated taxes and Small Business Administration has great website with cheap classes to train you on this stuff. DO NOT LIST ANY CURRENT EMPLOYERS ON RESUME EVER if you do this and just get good recommendations from jobs using Linkedinā¦I just cannot do any more business locally as it went too predatorial with a lot of the professionals being crazy or forced into screwing some peopleā¦I had to disappear from local work scene after I was thrown out of professional business networking thereā¦Is just hitting some victims of the sex abusers and women who refused relationships with wealthy but cannot even explain this to many of these nutties; they will just try to screw you later so if you see anyone trying to do big humiliation display on someone in public just know this person will undo you and avoid. Do not give out business cards in this situation, just share links to your online resume/portfolio when you get interested people from out of town. FYI: This situation was reported to governor and he just worked harder to screw some of the victims and attorney general covered up a ton of wrong doing like running off new people who purchased homes in area and cops ran them off in 1-2 weeks, left them unable to sell so it had to go backā¦
I ALMOST NEVER discuss this mental care issue except for terrible employment situation locally and been unable to move away as even some small towns have turned predatorial because they can. Lady answers job ad for country location, gets ruined and they put the drug dealer with her. Small town Cops kept them trapped thereā¦I donāt show any reaction to thought broadcasting behaviors around me so no one can really tell something is different except I work at home now. I really donāt like going to some events as is just too much b-tching around me.
I accept the friendās doing family time right now in our 30s/40sā¦Iām kid friendly anyway. Is nice to do kid time and give them back to the parents when they get crankyā¦Kid friendly females are always kept if you are not whiny about entertaining yourself sometimes until you meet new people.
I can say from experience, some towns and clique neighborhoods in city are a trap. Itās just a ton of crazy people bothering the latest person who moved there and went crazy. My own city is running this way with lots of the new ones developing a psychotic episode for a whileā¦If you are getting bothered by locals doing thought broadcasting/insulted about private stuff, bum around a while with friends/family and see if it is better elsewhere. If you are talking aloud to deal with voices, it will get the locals bothering you at the next stop so quit this coping strategy if you can. If you pissed off a wealthy local or one threatened you, just quiet talking to everyone you met there without being confrontational and your paranoia phase (with strangers bothering you) may pass pretty quickly if you donāt discuss the wealthyās dirty any more. Wealthy is probably the local problem cops and politicians ignore so think yourself lucky if you are not being used for worse and avoid their group. Think about moving around a bit to friends/family to see if you can find better place to live/nicer workers. If you find bad police discrimination, a move to next suburb will give you fresh start as long as you kept your problems private.
Some times people can not say hello.
They might be nervous, afraid, dont feel like it , psychotic , confused , another culture or some other understandable reason.
Does not nessacerely mean they dont like you or that they mean to be rude.
Some one asked me how i am today and i did not answer them.
Not to be rude , nor was it ill ment with it.
Just wasnt happeningā¦
Did not feel like i was in my body. n if im not in my body it might be ā¦not easy ā¦ to say helloā¦with my body
I also do not have friends in person.
Buuuut I believe I have spiritual friends.
I went to job interview today and told them i have Aspergers as I do have similar symptoms and think have this also and been diagnosed with it but I never mentioned Schizophrenia or ptsd as was advised not to.
I want a simple and easy job for my body.
I cant do most jobs in person because im disabled in person.
When I volunteered at meals on wheels it was good tasks.
Im grateful I have job though even though it is 2 hours a week.
We seem to be nice to each other here.which is friendlyā¦
Amazing . I said weā¦
with you guyzzzzz 
I lost a good friend whose family I was bonding with in October and now I am trying to make peace with him.
Yes. One I was with since 6th grade and who I thought would never leave me, but just like that he left my life after I became ill. I never expected that to happen and it still hurts. :-/
I know exactly what you mean. Itās like they use you for a confidence boost.
yea i distanced myself from friends so i guess it was mutual.
Iāve distanced myself from many people but I think sz has made me make less friends through life than actually losing them.
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Sometimes when someone asks you how youāre doing donāt you just wanna sometimes tell the truth? āIām having a sh*tty day. Thx for asking.ā
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