I don’t feel comfortable to be with my friend cos I think too much about give and take.
If she gave me then I’ll have to think about giving back which is a little stress.
I feel most comfortable when I’m with Mom, cos I don’t worry much about giving. She loves to give and I gladly take.
But that doesn’t work in friendship.
I always think about giving and it’s stressful.
How do you deal with this?
Contemplate a Ceiling Fan …
Sorry, but I don’t understand.
I have issues with this too. I’m low functioning and don’t have much to give. On top of that, I don’t actually get much from others. So I seem to be drifting into a ‘don’t expect much from others, don’t have the ability to give much to others’ kind of life.
I wish I lived in a give and take world.
Same here, and I wonder why there’re ppl around me who loves to give so much. I feel pressure to give back, and I always feel failed.
Giving of your time is a very valuable gift. Some people expect you to give blood. Conversation, knowledge, also count as gifts. Being a good listener is excellent.
I think I’m doing this all the time…
Cos that’s all I can do and I’m used to it.
Have you been preached to about giving? Because I know that used to bother me.
Yes, once or twice. That really bothered me too, but it has made me more self-conscious about giving.
Yeah, well it’s a bribe to say “When you give, you receive.” I always hated that, made me feel like the only reason people gave was so that they’d get something back. And people are like that. That’s no different from being hired and paid to work.
Yeah, personally it’s hard to give someone who won’t thank me but I don’t expect anything in return. Some people want something in return and they’re the ones who preach.
i have the same issue… i cant give anymore and i ve isolated myself from others. i am also low functioning 
its the same here, i am most confortable with my mom cause she stresses me less than others… i even couldnt talk, i have really hard times to explain something and its not nice for the others. i hope we will change … 
The art of conversation is not as easy as you might think. Even the physical act of talking is an effort. Ask any two year old.
yeah,ill have to relearn it einstein was saying that it doesnt matter your iq if you can’t explain something at your grandmother wow
My Grandmother always used to tell us that there are only two kinds of people in this world. There are the givers and the takers. … Well, she was always giving us kids money with which we were very happy to take from her although Dad told us not to. Ha ha ha, I always thought, although we tried reluctantly and insincearally to do that, we always eneded up with the money. Well, one day she said that to me again, and I thought after much contemplation, to say in response…“Yes Grandma, there are givers and takers and also those that recieve”. She had no reply to my seemingly innocent addition to her famous teaching. I believe that we are meant to give to others, that, of ourselves which is only good and has meaning only when we do so here in this lifetime. It has no other purpose. It is a gift of ourselves that is meant to be given or shared, and is like a currency that we cannot exchange at the boarder. We must spend it here.