I have spent since 2013 battling this illness. I feel so bad for all the years i wasted. Currently in hospital and have been since April. Spent 12 years wasting my life away doing nothing but stay on my computer. I want some words of support and advice, is there others in similar situations who spent a long time battling this illness? How can one make themself feel better about it?
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Just wanted to say that I’m sorry to hear you’re in hospital @Brim— keep your head up and hope you feel better soon 
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There’s nothing wrong with that.
(I’m not sure what it means to not waste a life anyway)
You’ve been battling what is basically a terminal illness if left untreated. That’s not wasting your life away. That’s fighting to stay alive.
Sometimes we have to go to hospital, like we do for a physical illness. There’s nothing wrong with that either.
But while in the hospital, see if they can hook you up with an occupational therapist. They can help you do more than be at your computer, if that’s causing you concern.
Best of luck @Brim , you’ll be fine.
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you need hope…find small hopes in things you love…then build on that hope in your future…with hope you will find happiness…sorry we all wasted years…I’ve had sz 30 years and done nothing except wrote a book, and painted many paintings…two marriages, still currently married from my second wife.
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I think I got I’ll in 2012. Many years wasted being on the couch due to severe negs.
Things are better. Negs improved. I am able to socialize. Voices calmed down a bit.
I try to live a simple life and I’m ok with that.
I don’t sit in front of a computer though, my back keeps acting up.
My next life goal is to start exercising. We’ll see how it goes.
Do you have any hobbies? Do you play video games or something?
Don’t worry about life being “wasted”. Do something you enjoy. Don’t have too many demands on yourself. That’s just society talking wanting you to be productive.
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I love the time I spent in front of my computer also taking walks at the nature park.
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Thank you everyone for the replies, I feel better. And yes @Speedy I do have hobbies, i played video games and really enjoyed that. Probably the most fun i had in my life. That was before my mother basically made me feel worse, her talk to me is in an unhealthy way.
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One can learn anything by sitting by the computer, it’s awesome. There are so many cool games out there. We can meet people online. We can write and create. My friend is a photographer and he uses his computer for his pictures. Others code. Some study. Almost everything is done with a computer these days. Before I got ill I used to write personal notes and philosophies. It’s fun! There are so many cool websites. Reddit is one of my favorites. I discover so much interesting trivia about music thanks to Reddit.
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I mostly just use my computer to play Steam games. I love Steam.
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You can’t do major things everyday with schizophrenia while being home all of the time. A squirrel has the brain the size of a small fruit yet it knows to prepare for hard times like the harsh winter. Some people don’t prepare for anything. They blow through their money if only they were as wise as squirrels. Humans have a lot of temptation. Side note. When I went on zyprexa I spent a year on my couch sleeping and hallucinating non stop. I barely ate and gained 60 pounds because some antipsychotics affect metabolism. Barely eat still gain weight. Now I’m on geodon and I’m more active. Everything in moderation. Hang in there.
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I lost 3 years of my life to mental illness, substance use and burnout. I think the best we can do is just to focus on what we want going forward and how to obtain that. There is no use in dwelling on the wasted past.
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Moving to DX’d Sz sZa.
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Glad you are feeling better and more optimistic now.
I also feel upset about such .
I never married n even if I didn’t want to marry I would still want the long term foreva kinda romantic same thing or better than paper stuff .
Instead I went from boyfriend to boyfriend and also been raped and molested n bad sex and even when the sex was pretty good it still wasn’t what I want from my sex life with connection and intimacy and free flow and spirit and feeling like self n partner feeling like their self and passion and romance and wildness and sometimes affection and etc
Also “friends “ said they don’t want friends who don’t work so they won’t be my friend .
They don’t know me or how much my real self worked but not in me own holy bod .
Who wants friends like that anyway ? Only want to be with you if you rich n popular n fancy but no empathy or fcks 
to give if you can’t work .”oh what humbleness “ the irony that they had “health care rolls “.
Oh as long as they get paid ..
So no friends as such except can say Gday to three x or so .n care bout n so .n Facebook friends with one .
No realestate ownership in that way as such .
No savings .
No holidays .
No traveling .
No children .
No socialising .
No connection with anyone ever pretty much because how can you connect with anyone when you aren’t even connecting to yourself or in your own body hardly ever .
It’s lonely !
Thankfully I have a partner and dog and we rent a nice little place I love and appreciate and hoping for a better quality life here and live in peace and feel like oneself etc n happiness n so forth .
Couldn’t stand living at last place 
stuck up horrible fckrzzz all of them disrespecting me etc n me all alone kinda .except my dr was lovely and at least three retailed people.rest were fck Witt’s .
Having ability to work and have education and career and financial freedom.
I got aged care certificate three and worked at some cafes etc but only worked a couple years or so my whole life .
Difficult to work with my holy body when I ain’t in it ….
In a way a simple life suits me now I reckon it’s what I want .
With love n other delights .
N maaaan do I want great sex .
I’m actually upset I’ve never had the sex life I truly want .
I just don’t get that connection n chemistry n spirit flow n passion etc
I know it’s “forbidden “to say this in a way but I might crave divine masculinity but not in a opressive fck Witt way in a Awesome way I’m happy with n where I can be true real me n be our true selves .
What can one do …..
Pray if one does that to whoever one does that to .
Ask for help if one had anyone to turn to .
Enjoy good food and other “simple “ delights.
Try to exercise.
Try to plan things to look forward to like a trip to beach or bush walk .
Adopt a pet to care for and have love and happy moments with .
Listen to positive affirmations.
Read a self help healing trauma book or how to live well with schizophrenia book .
Be kind to yourself and compassionate and supportive .
Actually I might be close in spirit to a bestie male that we may share same sense of humor and have laugh together but he is so intense and not romantic relationship n our bodies don’t hang out .in spirit may not be right word ? Since I m a beating heart n a breathing but still not
much energy n spirit n own eyes in me .
Intense can be awesome in a calm cool way .passionate n happy n stuff .
I just don’t think he and I are romantically suited but better as true beaut mates .
Really hope I get the sex life I want before I die ….
With love n respect n intense in cool way n passion n awesomeness.
My bad sex life is upsetting me this moment in time .
It’s like the men have woman in their bodies that there’s no sexual chemistry n so .even when it’s somewhat enjoyable and even if I come on rare occasions it’s nowhere near what I want .i want sooooo much more .
If anyone is offended by me using word masculine then just use word passion or compatible or something?
I feel like the whole time from 1990 to 2005 was wasted. Those were the years I spent in complete, profound suicidal depression that I just could not shake. Until one fine day, out of the blue, I saw my ex for what he truly was, and bam!, my depression was gone never to return.
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only if you read about scz
you wont do what you did !!!
i stayed 9 years at college then graduated
i never left my life becoz of scz
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I’ve lost around 10 years fighting this stupid disease.
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I was diagnosed back in 2013 as well. Well back then they called it psychotic depression. Im still fighting it and still losing out on life
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i try to just focus on making each day good instead of looking into the past or future.
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i also feel like i wasted a lot of time. i ended up finding out i have cancer, those accute treatment facilities dont often have the equipment to diagnose cancer.
once my cancer came out and i got on a bipolar mania medication with about a years time on invega i started to feel better. im on the three month shot now and i just forget about the antipsychotic completely for 3 months at a time
what people dont realize is the side effects are really bad but with the shot you can forget about those times when you wanna stop taking them because someone called you fat or whatever.
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Hope you are cured of your cancer now @PikaTchu .
I had ovarian cancer.
They removed my ovaries etc and i. Still alive over twelve years or so later.