Do u ever later notice you've over shared

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How do you learn not to overshare?

I think it can be a difficult skill 4 some to master.

But maybe possible

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Just be you what you want to be :smiling_face:

Share ! Over share ! Nothing matter its after all what, I choose to think and do !

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I know I hate having secrets.

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Yeahā€¦i tend to overshare that i have a mental illness to people Iā€™ve just met. Itā€™s cuz i donā€™t want them to ask me stuff like ā€œwhere do you workā€ or other questions. I just figure that Iā€™ll be up front about who i am and if they donā€™t like it they can hit the road. But perhaps Iā€™m wrong and i end up scaring them off. IDKā€¦

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Oh right. If it works for u then it might be alright.

I donā€™t usually like telling ppl my dx upfront because then I feel awkward u know due to the fact these ppl may then feel cautious and a bit unsure of meā€¦

Itā€™s great u can be upfront about it.

I can only do dat wen I feel I need to disclose it due to for example an employer asking y so many gaps in cvā€¦ Even then, if possible I try to keep it to ā€˜a breakdownā€™ā€¦ Then as I work there, slowly wean them to the clearer truthā€¦ As I get more comfortable there.

But for example on a dating site, Iā€™m pretty upfront. Cos I donā€™t wana waste my timeā€¦ Like how u was saying too.

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I am OK with protecting secrets shared to me from others. But I donā€™t particularly enjoy having my own secrets dat much

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Over sharing feels thrilling in the moment 4 me.

But after that, I feel unstable lol.

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I try not to air my dirty laundry. Like the fact that I love it when the Asian babes wear size 7 and a half platform flip flops.

Ooops.

:flushed:

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Over-sharing with people you know well and that you trust is probably OK.

However, I would be cautious with over-sharing with people you donā€™t know well since you never know how people will react or how they will use the information you disclose.

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There is a saying in the military: need to know. If someone doesnā€™t have a need to know, then I donā€™t share my personal information with them.

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Yeah when i shared too many of my fries :tired_face:

Then i waz sooo meny hunger :yawning_face: cuz where ma fries go :pensive:

But then i rememba i have coupons for mo friesssss :face_holding_back_tears::drooling_face:

:fries: :yum:

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Always one extreme to the other

:grimacing:

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I just try not to beat myself up over it, this then makes me conscious of it next time without stressing. Idk how better to explain it, it may not make much sense but it seems to work

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I think it takes discipline and a lot of practice not giving away too much info about yourself to people you donā€™t know very well.

Just keep holding back info and try to trick your brain into getting a rush off of keeping your own secrets and eventually it will get easier not to overshare :wink:

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Maybe self expression elsewhere. Like through art.

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I only disclose that I have schz with close friends and family. Otherwise, I donā€™t say unless I really know someone. Its a bit of a burden but I donā€™t want to encounter someone that believes in the stigma that we are bad. I donā€™t want that in my life.

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:hushed: Oooh. So sorry to disappoint your perfect self.

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What do you mean by perfect self?

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Yeh I agree.it takes practice, like learning a new skill: not to overshare.

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Why are you being rude?