Do they help or hurt you?

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Are people a net positive or negative in your life? Today i had a good day and i realized it was because i didnt have much interaction with people. I know its my mental health that causes my experience with people to be negative but i really do ok with little interaction aside from loneliness.

The judgment..and believe…the emotions and constant social pressure makes it hard for me. Before mental illness i could deal with people but now even watching cartoons ware me out lol

I hope my new meds fix this …i love peoe but hate dealing with them..

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Yeah I had this too, think I had to much black and with thinking. Most people tend to be as lost of not more lost than us. A lot of them I think are in survival mode

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Depends on the people .

:slightly_smiling_face:it’s possible it’s a rare minority people one can be comfortable and go well with and authenticity know they give a fck :fu:t6:for one in true being as you for they etc

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People are good I am a person who is good. Life is good. The human mind is a good thing to have. Illness is not good. I like people.

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considering that people birthed and raised me and I wouldnt exist without them, I’d say its a net gain.

As for people in general, I think that a majority of people are decent overall. But there is a large minority who are not.

Of course, people are complicated, so ‘decent’ could be considered a relative term.

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We’re on vacation, traveling, and a fair ways from home. My wife keeps derailing the fun part of the trip to visit with friends and she expects I’ll visit with them with her. No. I’m done. I’m visiting with one last couple next week and fxxx everyone else until 2026. I was promised tomorrow night was reserved for us to paddle board as it looks like it’s our one break in the weather while we’re at this place near a lake I have wanted to try. Now because her friend ditched tonight I am expected to visit with them tomorrow night. Going to the lake by myself. It was really important to me to spend this time on the lake with my wife, but I guess I’m not as high on her list of what she cares about.

People who are shoved into my life by others without my wanting them there are definitely hurting me at this point.

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People walk on egg shells around me. I can easily misunderstand their words as insult or mockery or disdain. I do want to socialize but I don’t trust myself to act normal around others. Having to hide a severe MI doesn’t help my cause either. I feel much more at ease around well-established friends, even if we don’t often see eye to eye.

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@shutterbug , I’m assuming you told her how that makes you feel and she didn’t care enough to change her plans to visit with her friend anyway. That’s very hurtful. I’m sorry. And I’m glad you’re going on your own still. It’s not easy but I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself.

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I feel a lot better if I spend time with certain family members and my husband and friends.

I feel worse with other family members and people.

I don’t handle being lonely well at all

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Yea.. i guess it depends on the person. Its good you guys have positive people in your life tho!!!

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I would be pissed too …

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People are a positive but the people in my mind are not.

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It depends

The bickering, scream, agressive talking within my family tires me and I feel often better alone in my bedroom

At the same time it makes me feel better to have hugs, holding hands, talking to them about my issues (even though I receive sighs often)

Hanging out with my friends can make me have a good time, but it can make me lonely and tires me too

Some people bullied me when I was in a crisis instead of helping me

When I go outside and hear laughs it’s like people are laughing at me

I also feel like they’re glaring at me sometimes

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I enjoy solitude. It’s so peaceful being alone.

I can talk to voices if I want too, but solitude away from human beings is amazing. I don’t enjoy anyone’s company.

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I resonate with this! I have found that my stress is reduced drastically when I don’t have to socialize a bunch. It brings up the same thought processes, feelings, and physiological reactions that make it more draining for me than not. I hope you can find something that helps relieve the turmoil your facing :blossom:

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One is perfect. Two is tolerable. Three is a crowd. Four plus is time to make for the exit.

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i love to socialize. only problem is afterwards i mull it over and decide that in reality everybody there i was socializing with really resents and hates me,… that’s my paranoia. go figure.

judy :smiley: :rofl:

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That sucks..im sorry u feel hated. Hope it changes for u .

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I’m not sure my friend, I feel I need people but I’m too choosy

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