Is it a delusion of jealousy if you believe that your lover is so fantastic that all the women would Line up to sleep with him, behind your back?
I mean it IS possible, but I think it is unlikely, when he is just an ordinary person
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Is your lover a movie star?
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Lol no no a regular person
It’s just a normal feeling, jealousy.
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It’s cos you love him a lot but maybe feel a bit insecure idk
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So what makes the difference of “normal” jealousy and delusion?
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I’ve yet to meet a guy who’s capable of pleasing so many women, while going unnoticed by his girlfriend. I’m not saying they don’t exist but must be a rarity.
Does your boyfriend ask for alone time? Does he sometimes appear exhausted for no reason?
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I believe what you experience is just jealousy. I aslo experience it, though they say too much jealousy is unhealthy.
Delusion is quite… very disconnected from reality.
This one, what you mentioned is also probably not very probable, but it’s still connected to reality.
IDK if it makes sense what I wrote. I don’t think this is delusion what I mean
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It is a little difficul to explain. My jealousy is not related to sex, it is when he posts a poem or a song on the internet for others to see. Then I am sure that women would realize how creative, sensitive and talented that he is and want him
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but it’s not delusional!
It’s very very natural.
As for example I fear that women will flirt with my BF, because he is very “handy”, knows how to do literally anything and is a very smart one.
I fear I am not enough for him. That’s what breeds my jealousy
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If i recall correctly, didnt you mention that you have borderline personality disorder? I think this kind of worrying is pretty common with bpd. My girlfriend has it too.
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Yes that is exactly how I feel. im not creative myself, I don’t write songs, poetry or paint or anything. So I think what if he finds someone who is as creative as himself?
So maybe Im not delusional
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I am not the best on such topics,
but atleast I want to say… he has his own reasons to be with you.
If he loves you, it doesn’t matter how creative or not creative you are. He loves you just the way you are. 
I would say, work with your confidence and love yourself. As I try to do the same…worrying on such things doesn’t help.
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Yes I had borderline before schizophrenia. Yes I feel very intensely and Im very passionate. But the funny thing is that I used to be polyamorous. But with this guy I could not bear the thought of him being with someone else
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Yeah i couldnt handle being polyamorous. Too much drama. I think its pretty normal to want a beloved life partner all to yourself. It makes the connection stronger i think. Maybe your confused about having common one on one relationship feelings instead of the old open lifestyle haha.
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Yes it leaves me vulnerable, I think
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