Machiavelli said it is safer to be feared than loved. Sometimes it can be dangerous to be loved. People say, “I can tell you’re a cool guy, and I want you to buy me a car and a house because I know that is what a cool guy would do.”
They hurt you like hell and expect you to love them endlessly because of it.
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Sadly, there are some people who are too much involved with materialistic things. They do not care about love. Love for them is just a word. I am sorry if you have met someone from the group. Don’t be sad…There are many honest and kind hearted people as well.
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Me and my husband are sitting in the same boat. If I sink it I sink myself along with the rest of the family. We have had hard times when money was a problem. We had too many loans. Now we have one big loan instead. But there is no chance we can buy a luxuary car or even a home. We rent our home but the rent is so high we can’t save enough money to buy a house. We pay 950 € /month.
Our parents would never expect anything from us in return. I think that’s true to most of you.
If that person is kind and honest hearted(thanks p2r), I just think he or she would only say the beginning part of the sentence “I think you’re a cool guy”, and period(full stop).
In my humble opinion… love is the only way to make it through. If someone is only after you for a house and a car… that isn’t love.
@crimby You are a cool guy. A cool guy doesn’t need a taker.
I had a girlfriend once who I would say I loved with all my heart…
and she used me like no other… and if I’m honest… I used her.
I have been thinking that it all taught me a valuable lesson… That wasn’t love… it was two toxic people just feeding a need more then being in a relationship.
That has taught me… what love isn’t. When I could see what love isn’t… I could find what love is.
The vast number of second chances my family gave me…
All my kid sister’s forgiveness and belief in me…
The friend who drove across town in wind and bad traffic just to check up on me…
To me… that’s love.
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well seeing as i’m brassic i know no one will date me for money. when i get my inheritance? different story all together. i shall be very wary of takers when i’m older. if i had loads of money i’d probly move to the bahamas where there is no inheritance tax. i wouldn’t want my hard earned cash to be split between the tax man and my kids. i’d want them to get the lot. as it is i will have to pay 40% inheritance tax…nearly half my inheritance gone simply for having well off parents. i don’t think that’s fair on me or my kids.
I hate the cliché - “Life isn’t fair”. It often means, “I am going to hurt you very badly and not feel a thing about it.”
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everyone is unique don’t tar everyone with the same brush.
I would NEVER tell a child life isn’t fair.
Lol my parents used that term a lot. Fairness really has nothing to with life though.
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your parents were right to tell you that because life isn’t fair and it’s a parents job to prepare their offspring for independent living. i do tell my son life isn’t fair when he asks me why his dad died and not someone else’s. i tell him that sometimes our genes give us things that hinder us and can kill us, why? because life itself isn’t fair. it doesn’t care that you’d rather be a red head than a blonde, that you’d rather be 5 foot 6 than 4 foot 11, that you got your dad’s ears or your mum’s nose or you got cancer at 14, 21 or 51. genetics and envoirenment don’t care about what’s fair and what isn’t and some people are like that too. children have to be prepared to meet and unfortunately interact with those people…yes they’ll make their own mistakes but you would be right to give them the heads up before they move out. life is not to be seen through rose tinted spectacles or you end up being taken advantage of left right and centre. your parents were right. x
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Yep I’m glad they told me that. Helped me build tougher skin to face the world 
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It depends on what you mean by “fair”. The things you talk about, Jayne, are just incidentals. What I hate is when someone tries to shake you down for money, and then says “life isn’t fair” when you ask him if he doesn’t know it’s wrong. That can work both ways. If you aren’t going to be fair with me I’m not going to be fair with you. Life’s a bitch.
that’s exactly what i meant when i said that some people aren’t fair…some people are downright evil but that doesn’t mean everybody is the same. i tend to reserve my judgement until someone shows themselves for what they really are. you’re right, life can be a bitch but then so can i so i say bring it on, to those types. and you;re right to be wary too. there are a lot of twisted folk out there just waiting for the next victim to come along.
I will never understand why some people believe love gives them carte blanc to hurt you.
No stranger has ever hurt me the way those who supposedly “loved” me have done, and those scars run deep.
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