I love my parents, we have very good relations, it is a pleasure to live with them,
I see no problem continuing this way.
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I live with my husband but I could live alone too. Just that it gets lonely at night. If i had to live alone I would need a budgie or cat to keep me company. And go take walks downtown to see others at library or shops. Otherwise I like my own company. Sometimes I can get more done when Iām alone. But if I am ill with sz I could lose focus and slip into a void and not cook for myself or clean or dress etc.
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I have lived alone since 2007, when my son moved to a group home. I live in an assisted living facility today, alone in my own private apartment, with my cat, Simba. We are very happy together and I never get lonely.
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I wish i did
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I could do, but Iām not sure if Iād want too!
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I can hold a job, study, functionā¦but sure as hell canāt live alone. Last time I was left alone in apartment i slept with knife under my pillow. I was so sure somebodyās gonna kill me.
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sometimes I wish I did too. Itās nearly impossible in the city, though.
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I live alone but much of what allows me to do so was in place while my wife was still alive and well.
A psych report for disability benefits,a few years ago, said I had limited ability to live independently in the community.
I get by but itās at a fairly low level ie Iāve never worked, have zero friends,struggle to keep my flat clean and tidy, am not the best with hygiene, am not good with manual/practical matters.
Unfortunately there isnāt much support here if you are chronically as opposed to acutely ill, and not a danger to yourself and others. My step daughter has a lot more idea of how I struggle to keep on top of things than the so called mental health professionals who I see at the depot clinic.
When I move it will be the first place I will have lived completely on my own from the start. I am very worried how I going to cope but my step daughter has said she and my granddaughters will be there for me.
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Iām sure that you will manage just fine in your new place @firemonkey.
Your probably experiencing anticipatory anxiety.
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That would sum it up well.
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My doc used to call this apprehension
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Hi @Wave sending you some positive vibes that everything will turn out for the best.
I live alone, and personally I canāt really stand it. I do have a cat, but he can sometimes make my paranoia worse/and sometimes comfort me.
I suppose it all depends on the person and their level of function with our illness.
Take care 
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Thank You @Chrishasheart, I really appreciate it.
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I think ultimately we want to reside with someone who genuinely cares for us
A basic need is knowing that there is someone nearby who loves us.
But because you donāt have this currently does not mean that you canāt find true company on the road ahead.
As for your paranoia I think you need to figure out what exactly it is that has scared you
Did you begin noticing television and radio broadcasts synched with your thoughts?
How about people responding to them?
Philosophy is your savior; among those forums and stories youāll find many whoāve taken entertainment
in walking the path youāre on. A much much more interesting world than the one we are served from start.
Are you crazy or are you simply just destined to be a Scientist?
Paranoid philosophy creates necessity for resolve
Necessity is the father of invention.
Scientists handle the invention side of things.
Donāt worry
Being weird, ultimately, is pretty cool.
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Happy Cake Day @Charlie!
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I prefer to live alone, because when I hear voices in my head I start doing some bizarre gestures, so I donāt want somebody to see me. I hardly control myself outside, and of course I did not tell anyone about my illness so Iām afraid someone notice something even my family members or my friends.
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When I was sicker than I am now, and I was living alone in my house, I always slept with a knife under my pillow because I was so afraid of serial killers getting in my house and killing me, or my ex husband getting in my house and going on a murderous rampage. Now, I live in an assisted living facility with security doors and a security guard on guard 24 hours a day. And, I live on the third floor. And I lock my apartment door. I feel much less paranoid now and much more secure.
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I lived by myself when I was super paranoid and it was very hard. I had the support of a case management team that came to my house on a weekly basis. That helped. I didnāt have supportive family or many friends. It was very, very hard. The thought to move into a group home never occurred to me or anybody else however. I donāt know why.
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I gave up living alone around my city as the cops were protecting the wealthy abusers and their former victims who are now stalkers, trespassers, vandals and thieves. My neighborhood was ruining new people and people on the checkā¦So, I sold my home of 12 years at auction while others in neighborhood were bailing out too. I also lived in bigger city where one REALLY wonāt be left alone and things are so concerning, my bossā family even recommended I move away and work remove as where I was living had harmed othersā¦Some small towns are good while others are terrible if the cops are dirty due to drug $$$ pressures. Honesty hurtsā¦I get threatened while out in public in my new neighborhood as things are closer to lots of Section 8ā¦I just donāt shop around that area.
I would not live in a large city hearing the voices any longer as it gets the weirdos and predators on you. The cops serve to ruin if they figure out your money is coming from disability, need to say you work at āWalmartā to avoid the discrimination tactics. The suburbs are a completely different situation with better cops as long as you claim you work at āwhateverā and never disclose your diagnosis or income source. The ābedroomā communities which are over 20 minutes out from city have even cheaper rents, better cops and fewer problems most of the timeā¦But, some are treated to a harm time anyway due to your location and met the wrong thing years back, so it really can take 2 people to move anywhere.
I guess my confidence comes from the fact that I was symptom free until 30. I earned a college degree and self supported for many years before I got sickā¦I had no clue humans would mistreat each other with the thought broadcasting and guided conversationsā¦but I was coached by a lot of good people along the way so that I would be okay and generally just do not answer anyone acting or talking weird. Some get a pickup by a stranger talking about something private to you ā is usually worth it to talk to these at least once to see if you are getting good dates or weirdos. These setups are frequent first marriages as person knows lots about dealing with the area but best only if respect is shown to all and SO is able to hold down employment long term, education is nice plus too. These will ditch you if any stress or mental symptoms happen to them so beware this one is āconditionalā so you need to be able to self support.
I also realize people with vandalize, snoop, steal or stalk anyoneā¦It is possible to step outside the door and hear the āsniperā or ārifle rangeā even in the country. I would only walk in town if you are hearing the rifle range as you can easily be hit by hunters walking dirt roads during hunting seasonā¦
I saw a lot of women go through problems before my own hit but I came from a different kind of abuser situation who had explained to me lot about what to expect and how to act so most of the things made sense. This was a relief as the mental care doesnāt provide a lot of coping skills, did it?
Frankly, a little case of the voices for a while and the weirdos will usually get most of the females and some of the males looking for relationships as two keep the weirdos, stalkers, vandals and workplace sex harassers away.
If female, going to ANY place where you donāt know anyone and moving alone puts you in a lot of risk any longer as the cops help the abusers and druggies get girls. Move with a new person and can end up with wife beaters or sex abusers tooā¦So, you need to have money to move back and place to go if you check out any place alone so you donāt get stuck with this kind of hell.
I tried to move multiple times in my area only to find scams that turned me back or REALLY CRAZY RENTAL SITUATIONS.
My suggestion:
1.Car moves with a blow up mattress, camping chair and small foldup table are best choice. You will find lots of 50yo+ apartment buildings in semi-rural areas. MUST HAVE MONEY IN ORDER TO RETURN. Can easily get everything at local resale shop if you buy multiple things as the guy will deliver if you haggle. Thrift store will also work tooā¦
2. Family and friendās guest rooms.
3. Work in your cityās suburban areas to see how people act. Choose a place with low crime rate and affordable apartments.
4. RV campā¦
If you choose small town, go to one of the denominational churches and you may have the townās problems explained and be kept in favor. Some small towns are really covering up too much drama to deal with especially with bad medical care or towns with tourist money as is VERY hard on the people who get by.
Iām about to your situation with aging parents. I understand your fearsā¦I bought a small town property as the directed crime in my city has gotten too bad and the terrible nursing situation I donāt want my elders to use. Will offer my mother the country nursing home or use my back room eventuallyā¦I will have to go through an initiation which is easiest renting and do not own a whole lot to get messed up. Iām dating a friend who got himself in trouble and ended up in jailā¦I will wait on him as he is good one who doesnāt mistreat people so I will deal with his felony status.
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Thanks, one of my better B-days; got a kitten! =)
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