And I don’t mean sex, although I was afraid of that, too. I’m talking about everyday love. It’s a cold head and a very real stopper of good behavior. Saying no instead of yes.
Love is a scary thing but human being need it and maybe other life too. Some people talk nice words to their plants and stuff.
Sorry,I am afriad of love too,I don’t know if I will ever overcome this thing…but there are some people on this forum looks and sounded person who is full of love
I think we can love from a distance but are afraid of a showdown. I think it’s why we are discouraged from a getting together.
Love gives and it takes away
I have a boyfriend of 5 years that i feel intense love for, my fear is of losing that love and having nothing. God forbid i lose hom and i am left all alone again. When my fiance asked me to move out, i thought nobody would ever love me again, and here comes along this wonderful man full of love for me and i could not understand why, what is there to love? i am defective, why would he love me? what is there to love? But he loves me regardless of my illness and he will do almost anything for me, and i love him the same in return.
That is heart warming littlemissy
It is good to hear
I do not feel love nor hate, sometimes I just feel nothing, but at least I am not in the emotional roller coaster every day then.
I mean being loved is not so important for me - if I need affection, I turn to my dog - who shows me unconditional loyalty.
What is important to me is being understood - a lot of people just get me all wrong.
If only they knew how fragile I am on the inside
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I don’t fear love I just think it causes more problems that its worth I love my ma and family and cat …well my cats part of the family.
But for me including anybody in that circle is unnecessary and possibly detrimental to my well being.
Ive loved and lost …now that ive experienced it so I can have a rational belief about it that’s good enough for me.
I know that im not missing out on anything but those that haven’t experienced it prolly should as a emotional growth requirement if nothing else.
Try mixing love with hate. I think the two often go together.
Love can we ever have it and does it last.
Same here…
I don’t know what I’m really afraid of.
It’s better to love than to not love at all. You can love a puppy or a kitty. Love is not what hurts it’s misunderstandings. As long as your clear on where you stand you will be okay.
I’m afraid of both as well, for varying reasons.
I’ve only ever loved my family. Everyone else comes and goes, so it’s never benefited me to form deep bonds with anyone else. I care about people, but I can also let go very easily. I’d be terrified to put the depth of my love I have for my family into a person who isn’t obligated to stay with me.
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I tried to love in the past. I was rewarded with brutality and meanness. I am obviously not a good judge of character. I had a child with this man and plan to spend my life with this man before everything changed with the words “I’m pregnant”. What followed was five years of what I can’t describe in words other than torture and fear. Never again will I put myself in that position again. I won’t let anyone get that close to me ever again, the fear is overwhelming.
If someone said they loved me I wouldn’t trust them, I’d think they were trying to trick me somehow. And if I did believe her I’m not sure what id do with that. It’s easier to be friends with people i think, though that can make me suspicious too when people are friendly
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