What this quote means to you??I find it very difficult to just be myself when i don’t know my abilities and qualities.
What about you?Have you found youselves.Do you behave ‘‘cool’’ in your daily life?I mean with a physical manner if you know what i mean.
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I feel.like i am only finally starting to “be myself”. Ive broken down walls of self deception lately and am trying to hang up my many “masks” and move on with out them. No masks and no armour, lately been venturing out into the world first time “naked” and vulnerable, but i still feel cool as a cucumber in most situations, or im just deceiving myself again.
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Before I developed SZ, I was confident in myself. Now it’s like I have no idea who I am anymore. I am 39 and feel like I did in high school - lost.
I haven’t had much self for the past 42 years.
‘Be yourself’ is part of my philosophy. What I mean by it is to be authentic and genuine, follow your heart, seek the truth and follow it, do not lie, cheat or be fake, but be honest. Be free to be yourself, follow what is in your heart and what your true interests are, do what you enjoy (without harming yourself or other people or society at large), etc.
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I’m a slightly different person depending on who I am with… I think many people are like that, and it is nothing to worry about - I am very okay with it. Some people bring about aspects of me that others don’t, and vice versa. I can be surprised by how some people ‘can bring about the best in me’. I think that’s pretty cool, it makes for variety, it makes for me appreciating being with others each time for a different reason. And to me it is an open question whether ‘the best in me’ is really there at all times, or whether it only arises in these interactions. It sure is difficult to come up with certain thoughts, to make me laugh or to make me feel loved all on my own.
Am I performing different roles? perhaps. Is that a bad thing? I don’t know, I don’t think so. I don’t think think of that as putting on masks - although I do get that expression in cases where you would act differently for the wrong reasons. Perhaps it could be said I am myself when I am alone, and do not have others’ influence to ‘corrupt’ my behavior. But the truth is, when around others, I wouldn’t like to behave the way I do when alone - and I don’t. And it is also true that I am not alone all the time, so why would that even be the time when I am most myself in the first place?. I appreciate time with others, also online like here. It is part of my life to live in interaction. And therefore part of the person I take myself to be. Credits go to other people too, for making this person possible. Ofcourse people can think about all this differently, they are perfectly entitled to do so. But I like this view of others playing this role in my identity. My close friends and family, and to a lesser extent others too, all shape me in interaction with them. And I appreciate them dearly for it. I don’t think of myself as self-contained… perhaps this could be seen as unhealthy dependence on others. I don’t know, I feel like I’m doing okay. I had troubles with pretty radical conceptions of individuality in my life, and I’m giving this one a go now. It feels nice and comfy.
Everytime I be myself, I come across aloof. And my mom says that I have the “I don’t give a ■■■■” attitude. My friends say I’m strange aside from being called a nerd.
But being myself is all I know. I love being myself. On good days and bad.
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I’m in very much the same boat as @Silent_Sunday . Aloof is the most common way I get described.
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