Avoidant personality disorder

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Do you anyone on the forum have avoidant personality disorder?

I don’t avoid everyone but some ppl I avoid because I don’t like the thought of them leaving me.

I therefore prefer to not even talk to them in the first place.

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I don’t but I spend a lot of time by myself

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Not diagnosed but sounds about right

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I’ve been told I might have it. I thought I had social anxiety but AVPD makes more sense if I actually have it and it’s not just the autism.

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I think it could have something to do with a fear of being used and abused too although I don’t really understand that and need to look into it. Or just a fear of being used. Still, I don’t really understand that.

I think the solution may include being content to be alone.
And stuff like that.
In case that is what happens.

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There is nothing wrong with being alone.

I am most of the time

Even my new job, I used my diagnosis to get adjustments to work remotely.

It’s me and my dog rocking it much of the time, and I am ok with that

This was definitely the trigger for me to cut everyone except parents from my life.

My selectiveness is at such a high level that it’s impossible for anyone to breach it

Probably look back on it as a mistake, but not rn

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If it helps you right now, it probably isn’t a mistake to just have your parents and dog as a friend. It’s nice you have your dog.

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Oh my god.

I understand why I have had psychosis in the past about infinite hell.

Because it puts things into context.

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I’m told I do. I just refer to it as having common sense.

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The biggest thing that sends me into avoidant mode is being asked ‘What job do you do?’. That triggers feelings of guilt shame,worthlessness, and the belief that if people get to close to me they’ll not like the person they’ll find.

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I suffer from avpd, I have the diagnosis! I think my grandfather had it also! So I think it’s genetic!

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That’s abandonment issues!

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I was diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder many years ago. I don’t know if it is still in my file, but I have come to believe that it is easier for the world in general if I keep to myself.

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Yea. I think I need to work on self compassion and enjoying my own company in case I ever have no friends and in case no one wants to talk to me. That will solve the abandonment issue part. Tbh I can’t imagine that happening but it is good for me to see that as a default setting so that I’m not too desperate for ppl and in case it really does happen

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had it I swear. I avoided nearly everything from the age of 21 to my early 30’s. lost time. there were some good times again there but still the avoidance. I still feel it. worlds too much. too much responsability, want to avoid situations in life. need to. but I’ve been making progress. Never diagnosed just the same old anxiety disorder.

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I had a lot of the symptoms in my teens and eqrly 20s but with therapy they resolved for the most part.

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Don’t be so hard on yourself. I’m sure you’ll find friends and people that like you.

You do sound a little depressed? How has it been lately?

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