Wealth? power? work related achievements? awards? Those are the criteria that spring easily to mind. Using those, my life has been decade after decade of utter failure.
But are those the only things we should measure ourselves by? What about being a good husband/wife/father/mother etc? Doing those little things to help others that won’t get you recognised as an advocate/influencer, but can still make a positive difference. Being there for others in the best way you can when they’re struggling?
Having a happy, strong marriage is an achievement to me. Raising children that turn out to be good, decent people is another. Doing well at a job I love and being considered an asset is yet another.
Kids in our summer program giving me big smiles and hugs when they see me? That shows I’ve been successful in being a good librarian and program head.
The most ugly behaved disgusting people i know are “successful “ people with university education, house, marriage, children, friends, family, holidays, being socialites etc but they are so arrogant, hateful, stuck up and talk and look down at and disrespectful.
They treat me so badly that to me they are not successful people in my way of seeing it they are the losers.
I know some great academics too that are real ones but yeah … these lot yuck.
I gave them love and forgiveness time after time but I’m over it.
Some of the most beautiful , brilliant people I know have pretty much no friends, no career , have mi, no house , poor , can’t afford holiday and if they could they may not be able to go because of mi.
They are genuine, real, caring, sincerely kind etc
They are successful to me .
If we are happy and content with the way we live no matter what the situation is that is achievement and success to me. The clarity of mind and thought to handle those situations without stressing and being nervous about it and keeping calm and proceeding is also achievement and success for me.
