Not doomed - 67% of the population has at least 1 “adverse childhood events” - they are common, but it does make things much more difficult, no question.
Awareness
A) You’re aware of how the adversity you faced in childhood may be impacting your life now, and the lives of those you love. Awareness must come before any change. It’s the catalyst.
Understand
A) A realization that you faced great adversity as a child, and you did so without a brain that was fully formed, having no physical size or strength, no rights or freedoms, no money, very few life experiences to draw from, and only a partial education.
Thus when you face a challenge in adulthood you can remind yourself of the truth, that because of the adversity you faced in childhood, there is no obstacle you can’t overcome.
Sharing
A) You must share–tell another person about your Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) because conversations with others helps change the meaning of the ACEs due to others who can often see the truth that you cannot see.
I think that if you give someone a completely happy and contented childhood they will just end up not motivated to do anything. It’s about stress management not stress reduction, stress and pressure are necessary for motivation.
Thank you! I love this post, too! I’m watching the film screening and discussion right now! Having grown up in urban, high crime areas and becoming sz, this really resonates!
I remember my paranoia flaring up back when I was 13 and my friend from French class got shot in the jaw and survived, but was out of school for the rest of the semester. It’s never really let up due to my environment.
It’s good to know that there are ways to cope and heal! That hope is a skill that can be learned is a healing and motivating thing!
I don’t think you can move from childhood to adulthood without stress and trauma, although hopefully it is managed better than my own childhood was. Could have done without the beatings and rape starting around age 5 and lasting up to my teens. Getting picked on because you don’t have the most stylish clothes is probably the right amount of stress in grade school. Over that … meh.