So ive been sick lately physically. Been going back and forth to different doctors appointments. Tell me why my daughter at the age of 3 is using her little head. Everytime she go to doctor she notice she gets a treat. Today we woke up she kept telling me she sick she dont feel good everything hurts. Checked her temp. Nothing watched her actions she didnt act sick girl kept crying. So just to soothe my conscience i took her to doctor. Got there she asking for candy right off the bat. Doctor comes back nothing wrong with her. Now she getting a ear full unless she dying we not going to the doctor for anything. My kids are spoiled and smart and its scary. 3 years old not even im school yet. Lord jesus take the wheel.
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The WIC program in the U.S. does mandatory finger pricking of babies for blood draws, it started a bad reaction with my kids. I stopped going. Good thing your daughter might not mind it to get a treat in the end. Used to love going to the bank and us kids getting Chicklet gum.
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Yea your right i need to give a bad response to getting candy maybe she will stop doing it. Thanks thats called the pavlov affect.
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they do it in schools too, be careful,
They say, If you do this, I’ll give you ice cream.
it’s really sick.
Kids a very smart. So smart it can be nerve wracking. My nieces schooled me a time or two.
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Be careful not to punish your daughter for asking to go to the doctor. This could lead her to fear asking for help when she is actually sick, which could be very dangerous. Instead, just tell the doctor to stop giving her a treat.
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from what I remember, the doctors have a big pirate chest full of stickers and small toys,
no harm no foul. Everybody does it. A child at a young age loves doctors, and playing them, at some extent, and I wouldn’t think too much of it.
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For reference, I used to complain of headaches all the time as a kid, and my parents got sick of taking me to the doctor just for him to say I was fine. So they would yell at me and say I just needed to suck it up. As a result, I stopped saying I was experiencing pain, and just spent half my school day at the nurse. By the time my parents finally took me to the doctor again, they discovered I had a fatal brain tumor that had been growing unnoticed the whole time. I nearly died because my parents thought I was faking sick to get out of school.
It really messed me up, and even now I’m afraid of going to the doctor when I’m sick. I sprained my wrist a few months ago and refused to go to the doctor for a whole week. I ended up damaging my wrist pretty badly because I waited for treatment.
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Similarly, I almost died of appendicitis because my mother kept insisting it was just period cramps. Had my grandparents not listened to my aunt, who is a nurse, I might not be here. Sometimes you need to listen to kids. They know their bodies.
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Yeah even some doctors get it wrong and you can tell its not what they think, but they never listen
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Thanks everyone i guess ill keep listening and play it by ear.
Maybe you can sit down with her and have a talk about how she is now too old to have treats at the doctor, but she can earn a special treat by doing something helpful around the house, like picking up her toys or making her bed.
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that’s ridiculous, you don’t hold a special treat over the head of anyone for performing what you want them to do. Food, candy, any kind of reward system is bad when you use it for execution of a task, but maybe stickers, or pins to show they did good.
well, it’s not something you should use all the time, but if she wants to get a candy, and she is trying to use the doctor as her means of getting it, it would be good to let her know here are other ways of acquiring it.
At younger ages, food and candy is the biggest motivator, but as kids get older it’s smart to branch out the reward system to include things like special activities, toys, or an allowance. You don’t want to create a system where she expects candy every time she does a chore, but you do want her to develop the idea that her time and effort are valuable and worth a reward.
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it should never be said, If you do this for me, I’ll give you ice cream.
that’s the most incriminating thing you can say to a dependent,
it’s total blackmail, and Pavlov dog.
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and where are your Likes on this, Daze?
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There is a difference between saying “do this and I’ll give you ice cream” and “you can earn the things you want by working for them”
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forget it, I’m leaving for the day.
None of you know how to parent.
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Just because some of us would parent differently than you doesn’t mean you’re the only one that can be right. We’re just different.
My three year old pointed out i was not saying ankylosauraus right… its actually ankii lo saurus… not anklee o saurus… been wrong my whole life… lol
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