I must look ancient

The receptionist at my Fathers doctors building, asked me if my Father and I were brothers.
My Father is 86 years old for crying out loud!
I knew I looked old, but brothers?!?!

This is not the first time someone asked if we were brothers.

It’s demoralizing :worried:

They’re probably trying to make him feel younger, not make you feel old. Lots of people do that to elderly people.

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She was probably trying to compliment your father,

Not insult you.

We all look a little weathered by the illness,

But I’m sure you don’t look 86.

Don’t take it to harshly, she’s just some idiot out there trying to make conversation.

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I wish you were right but I don’t think so.
She seemed surprised when I told her that I was his son.

It’s not the first time that this happened.
A supermarket cashier had the same surprised reaction.

Of course they do. They’re acting that way to flatter him. It isn’t about you at all. I’ve done it to people I took care of in nursing homes

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I hope your right @ZombieMombie @anon54386108 but the sad truth is that I look old and sick.
I even walk real slow.

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How many years younger are you from your father? Maybe you look like his really younger brother.

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He’s 86 and I’m 55 years old.
I look and act older than someone in his 50s.
These meds and illness have ravaged me.

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I also look a lot older than my age. People my same age calls me uncle. I also walk slow. I’m 52 and my dad is 80. I’m much bigger and taller than him so I don’t think someone would asked if we’re brothers. I’m sorry this happens to you @Wave.

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I think they pretended to be surprised when you said you were his son in order to compliment your elderly father in law. It was about him, not you. I’m sorry it hurt your feelings.

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For the longest time everybody thought I was younger than I was. Recently someone called me an old man. My Mom also said with regret that it was not right that my hair was graying rapidly. It happens. However @ZmaGal is probably right in your case.

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I look and behave a lot older than I am.
I also move slower too @Kilimanjaro.
Thanks buddy.

Thank you @ZmaGal @Blizzard

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I’m definitely taking smaller strides .

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I’ve seen people who used to do hard drugs look older. My sis who has had a very hard life due to being abused for 20 years looks pretty rough.

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It depends on the other person’s perception. Some think that loosing hair makes you old but it doesn’t! I had a friend before my diagnosis that was 20 and he was close to be completely bald.
He looked like a 35 y.o.

I lost lots of hair and once a guy thought my mother was my wife! She’s 56 and I am 29!

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Welcome to the forum @Aziz! :slightly_smiling_face:

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Haha :laughing:. You poor guy!!!

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My cousin is 18 years younger than me but she looks older than me

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time to get Face cream wave :slight_smile: p
i use face cream

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You mean lotion like skin cream?