My friend knows I have MI of some sort. She knows I’m having hard time, and now she’s ghosting me. And she’ll ruin my reputation.
The goal by my therapist was to make friends with people out in the community. Because Covid shut down all day treatment at the public MH clinic, so I lost all my socialization.
Well it doesn’t matter. Schiz lost this community friend. But I will ask my psych to set me up so I can attend day treatment again.
That’s some real ■■■■ shame ■■■■ there. Hope everyone else is having a better time.
I can’t really discuss because what’s said in the room stays in the room. I’m thinking about telling the group about my sciz. I’ll probably be ghosted if I do though.
I can only think of a couple people that have treated me poorly simply due to schizophrenia. Honestly, most people I have met/meet have been understanding about it.
There are always the ignorant few, but Im pretty open about it and have had few issues.
Sometimes all it takes is one person being dismissive or ghosting you to really affect you. I know that just one single person shouldn’t really affect you or dictate how you feel about yourself or your world view but when you’re in the moment and you’re with that person being treated bad or ghosted or discriminated against, then that person is another human being lording over you the arbitrary fact that you have schizophrenia and that they don’t, so somehow they’re better then you.
I too have not faced much stigma or people giving me a hard time about having schizophrenia. For the most part the only people who know are related to me in a good way, such as friends, family, therapists or my bosses and I have not faced any discrimination from them. But when my ex-roommates girlfriend found out she just laughed every chance she got and I had to see her come into my own apartment often and treat me dismissively though I’ve been working longer than she has been alive got my college degree and her boyfriend, my roommate, was in the same position as me.
He wasn’t schizophrenic but he was mentally ill and living in supported housing and in fact she was mentally ill herself. I’d rather she say something mean to me rather then laugh, I don’t like anyone laughing at my expense. I’m not criticizing or trying to lecture you @Bowens , after all you said nothing offensive or inflammatory but your post and the original post made me want to get my view across at this particular time.
i get ghosted so much, even by people who dont know about my sz. could be having a chat with someone then they never reply again, i try to give the benefit of the doubt that maybe they are just really busy ill give them some time, and a year could go by and i still wont hear from them.
the truth ive come to realize in my life is that people who genuinely want to talk to you, will always find the time to do so. almost everyone has their phones within reach at all times.
Yeah, I was talking about just when people know I have schizophrenia. When Im heavily symptomatic, its another story. I mean I’ve been in psyche wards and stuff and treated not well. Like being held down and given a shot just for a disagreement with a nurse.
But the average Joe when Im stable who knows about it I have had few problems.
Yeah @Bowens I was talking about how we do outside the hospital. How we do making friends out in the community (not in psych wards or MH clinics). If others can tell that you have schizophrenia just day to day.
In the hospital is a whole different can of worms yikes
Ive always been an outsider even years before diagnosis yeah at work and college i was treated badly, i guess everyone knew i was ill before i even realised how much i was ill. Ive given up on having irl friends for now. Hubby is all ive got really. Family are barely there
I’m open about having SZ. Still got offered a better job. Still allowed to drive a school bus or other passenger bus. Still part of my community. Very possible to have the condition and move forward, but you have to push some.
There’s no one to ghost me. Very few situations that have required me to be open or not about my mental illness. There was one incidence I remember very clearly where I said to a taxi driver, while going to see my mother midday, that I didn’t work because of mental illness. My instant thought? Oh F I’ve just had a brain fart. His response? ‘My daughter was admitted to a psychiatric ward a few days ago’. For the first 6 years of being mentally ill I lived in a small village where it was well known I was mentally ill. I never got treated badly because of it. Sadly I think that wouldn’t be the case nowadays.
I don’t have a single friend outside of my hubby. Everyone has ghosted me. First, I confided in a woman I used to meet up with for dinner and a movie. When I started having issues with my MI, she said that my medication changed me, so she didn’t like me anymore. My meds made me feel like myself again, so I guess it was just me she didn’t like. I used to chat with two friends, but I told one of them (a nurse) about my MI in confidence, and all of a sudden they started ignoring me in our group texts and would only talk to each other. I think it’s been about a year since I deleted the thread, and they never reached out or cared. I’d known them since middle school, and we are all in our 40s now. And finally, I used to eat lunch with an octogenarian. I never shared MI stuff with her, but she just stopped reaching out or responding one day. The last time I saw her, she seemed really mad at me, and I just don’t know why. She didn’t pass or anything; she just doesn’t want me as a friend.
One of my longtime best friends ghosted me on Facebook after I told him about my SZA diagnosis
It kind of stung at first but then I accepted it.
Guess he was never a true friend to begin with.
yikes