Family taking care of you

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What do you do for money?have you thought of spouse or family taking care of you and not working if unable to get disability?is it selfish to expect family to take care of you. I have Schzioaffective for 3 years I’m 33 years old and my goal if I can’t get ssdi or SSI is to have my brother and sister in law take care of me who make good money . Is that selfish of me?people say work u can work with right medicine therapy but I feel like I’ve worked all I can work and that I’ve exhausted all avenues work wise. I even tried college

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Try to get benefits if you can. I know most first world countries it’s getting harder but it’s worth doing. I still live with my father. We are both on pensions and I help pay the bills and keep us going.

Sz really does stop you from working and from socializing so family can be a great support. Just do what you can to get on ssdi or ssi. I’m totally out of the loop on that system!

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I get ssi. My partner makes decent money but currently we’re being sapped dry won’t go into that.

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I get disability I live with my mom so both

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Hey man, if your brother agrees with that plan I see nothing wrong with it. But it should be his decision and his choice to do it or not.

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I was invited to live with my sister and brother-in-law and it took a while for me to accept their offer. They could see that I was not doing particularly well living on my own.

I am on disability support pension and pay my way, both financially and with chores around the house and garden, cooking, cleaning etc. I am very grateful to them both.

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I wish I could go live with one of my family members. I’m not doing so good taking care of my apartment. None of them know this however nor care.

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Yes, that’s selfish.

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@SkinnyMe, it is sad that you have no family support - hopefully it will change for you in the near future. I have to say that I really admire you though as your motivation to take care of Yourself is admirable. I wish I had the motivation to do piano, yoga, and all those other things you do to keep yourself occupied. Try not to stress about cleaning your apartment, as others have suggested, just a little bit at a time.

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For money, i currently work full time as a nurse. Despite this, there are other areas in my life that is quite unstructured and fragmented. So although i work, i’m deficient in many other areas, such as looking after myself. I’m terrible at looking after myself. Personally, i do not wish to go onto social benefits. It took me $20,000+ to do my nursing degree, i’ve finished paying it off and i don’t want that to have been a waste of my time.

However, you ask is it selfish of you to want others to take care of you. I don’t think it is. Everyone’s experience is different. I’ve needed to be looked after before when things weren’t so good for me. You may just need to be supported by someone until you find your feet a bit more. Maybe you can’t work full time, but maybe you could work part time or casually. Or perhaps you could volunteer somewhere. All that can wait until you are stable, however. Getting yourself in a good headspace is important.

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I get SSDI and I also got a decent apartment with a section 8 voucher

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Thank you @Sarah for your encouraging words. I am now pr-ying for the motivation to clean my apartment. And I am sure that in due time, my pr-yers will be answered.

I think it is wonderful that you have a loving, supportive family. Good for them!! And for you!! I wish you all the best.

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I’m on SSI and my parents are taking care of me. I’m trying to finish college though and hopefully I’ll pass all my classes and start the job I have lined up within less than a year. If it’s possible to work at all even minimum wage and part time you should to help contribute. But some people are too sick and disabled to do that and I know a couple of years back when I thought I could do nothing I was hoping my brother and sister and parents would take care of me if I could not take care of myself. Since then I’ve worked hard and I’ve gotten to a point where if it turns out someone in my family needs help later I can probably help them instead

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